The Road to Success is Not Always a Straight Line

The shortest distance between two points is a straight line. You’ve heard this saying at some point in your life. However, The road to success is not always a straight line. It’s different when you are in the process of making positive change, integrating growth, or even getting directions on Mapquest.com.

Setting goals, working towards them, and then experiencing a sense of accomplishment for their achievement doesn’t always follow the shortest or easiest path. You might experience setbacks, obstacles, and detours along the way. Sometimes, you have the experience of taking one step forward and two steps back or even feeling like you are cycling back to the starting line in midstream.

What is happening that makes this process seem like a zigzag road, or keeps you returning back to where you started?

Habitual patterns create neural pathways that get activated with practice. This means that in order to make new patterns that create new neural pathways that you resonate with new possibilities, beliefs, mental attitudes and positive actions to build the bridge. In general, forming a new habit needs about 21 days to form, 40 days to integrate into your being, and 90 days into becoming this new pattern within your life in action.

Sustaining positive growth over time is a vital key to experiencing a feeling of  success with your intentions. In order to do so, resonating with a coherent mental attitude and positive actions aligned with what is needed to keep you on track is essential.

First Things First

It might be difficult to maintain these new patterns in certain situations or particular relationships.   Although you are setting goals in a particular area of your life, there can be contributing factors that impact you in a negative way from related aspects of your life that require that you prioritize them before experiencing more focused life energy for your positive intentions. For example, if you are wanting to start a new relationship or business, yet you are struggling with health issues or finances, these areas take precedence before you have more focus and energy to work on your other goals more expansively.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Victor Frankl

Your relationships and web of connection built over time in your life impact your perspective that influences the quantity and quality of change you experience in your life. Making changes can feel as though you are radically diminishing your loyalty and love to a family member, friend, or partner. As an example, let’s say that you are the first person in your family who is going to college. You could feel a sense of guilt, or, feel as though you need to diminish your accomplishment even when you graduate.

Self Care

It could also feel difficult to decide how to set boundaries with people or situations in the process of making change. Habits that do not support your positive intentions like staying out late when you are needing to study for an exam, unhealthy drinking or eating habits, or continuing to engage in activities that deplete your vital life energy could sabotage your ability to take next steps towards positive change. Making time and space for the actions and priorities for taking next steps is essential in creating the infrastructure for new possibilities to emerge in your life.

Mindfulness and Resilience

Being curious and aware while implementing first steps can inform you about your feelings and beliefs This allows you to create insight about what needs to be addressed first as you move forward in your process. Knowing that every relationship, event, and situation has information for you to use in a way that can be supportive of your process allows you to integrate new patterns with greater integrity and long-term success. The attitude of gratitude allows you to be more resilient when you feel as though you are experiencing a “set-back.”

  Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ~Brian Tracy

Resonance Repatterning® works with the underpinnings of limiting beliefs, attitudes, and patterns in your life. The process identifies and naturally transforms unconscious material contributing to the experience of resistance and obstacles between you and positive change. One of the many repatternings entitled, The Integration for Growth Repatterning, works specifically with building new neural pathways for greater coherence in sustaining growth over time through cleansing and recharging your body-mind system to achieve momentum and resilience in your process of making positive change.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an experienced and certified Advanced Resonance Repatterning, Master Life Coach and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist with advanced training in holistic and healing therapies. She works with clients all over the world by phone, Skype, proxy and in-person with  cutting-edge energy medicine and transformation processes to re-pattern your life so you can change your story and your life to experience greater integrity in your wellness and well-being with more life energy for your positive intentions.  Schedule your personal session for positive change: Personal Repattern Your Life Sessions