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Creating Nurture and Support Within

You can create nurture and support from within. Late summer is the time of Earth Element related to your stomach and spleen in Traditional Chinese Medicine. This translates into better digestion as well as a better ability to adapt to transitions on the emotional, mental, and spirit levels. You are what you digest and then assimilate whether that be food, ideas, feelings, or where you place your attention.

Nurture and Support on the Physical Level

The spleen plays its part in the digestion process and transformation of liquids, blood in filtering out old blood cells and storing white blood cells for immune function. When Spleen is out of balance you might be experiencing issues with digestion, fatigue, menstrual issues, processing of blood sugar, issues with abdominal pain, anemia, edema, insomnia, hypo-or hyper-acidity, gout, or eating disorders particular to anorexia.

If you find yourself in a spin cycle of worry, look at how, when, and what you are eating. It is important to choose whole foods, eat slowly so you can savor and appreciate what you are ingesting. If you find yourself craving sugar for endorphins, know that you are needing sweetness in your life. If you crave sugar and are having digestion issues, you might have an Earth Element imbalance. This imbalance can actually create an increased growth of bacteria that can create greater disharmony in your body-mind system. However, again, this craving is a signal to create a calm, nourishing, and supportive environment in your life.

To encourage healthy digestion and assimilation for energy for your body-mind system, you can also use food and fragrance to support your overall health and well-being. Some of the essential oils and herbs that you can use in aromatherapy such as Frankincense, or cooking with some of these herbs, making teas like fennel, wintergreen, peppermint (spearmint if peppermint is too hot for your digestion); lemongrass, or lavender. Are supportive for digestion of both food and ideas, nurturing and letting go.

To create more tissue and muscle tone, nurture and support your body by taking walks two or three times a day while swinging your arms. This is good for your back and for healing your stomach area. This will also allow you to experience more energy in your body and engage more deeply in the present moment feeling more secure, stable, and balanced.

Handling transitions in life can produce worry when you do not feel at home within your own body or have a sense of direction for what is coming next. When Earth Element is out of balance, you can feel out of sorts within yourself meaning that you feel ungrounded, perhaps more in struggle, and disconnected from appreciation and gratitude for what is present to offer you true support and nurture in the moment.

Shift your attention to what you love, to your friendships, what you enjoy, and what brings laughter into your life. Get in touch with your own creativity, sense of purpose, spirituality, and what brings meaning to your life. Give yourself time for relaxation, sleep, and experiencing beauty within yourself and around you.

“Your mind takes its shape gradually from what you routinely rest your mind upon.”~Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Nurture and Support on the Emotional Level

In order to create more harmony and balance, it is important to work with transforming the energy of resonance from lack of support to resonance with support within and from the world around you. This imbalance can be expressed in self-doubt and a poor sense of self-worth. One way to shift this material is to work with gratitude for your own life. Become more aware of your body, your journey through life, and the ways you have been able to choose what is life-energizing. Use affirmations like, “I am grateful for my intentions for what I know is right for my life,” and “ I appreciate who I am.” Make a practice of looking for the sweetness in your life as you go through the day.

Nurture and Support on the Mental Level

The same holds true for transitions and change in your life. Worry, speed and pressure take you out of your center. The stress from these states narrow your physical vision and send you into a spiral out of your thinking and problem-solving brain into your emotional and survival brain where expansive thinking is not possible. Taking time to “rest and digest’ allows you to create, sustain, and let go of what is needed to create sustainable and tangible change in your life. When you are faced with change, acknowledge your need for stillness to process your feelings, thoughts, and body sensations to allow you to be more present to create a broader vision of what is possible.

At the same time, it’s important to take a look at where you are overextended in taking care of others and in situations where you attempt to be needed or wanted based on your offering of sweetness. Grounding yourself creates balance within that creates true nourishment for your life while setting loving and healthy boundaries with others. This allows you to resonate with being enough while you support yourself moving through life in the moment.

Asking for or receiving support and nurture from others is also another possibility on your palette for coherent giving and receiving. Internal awareness allows you to move towards recognizing and taking what benefits your life and attracting empowered people.

Resonance Repatterning sessions work to create greater harmony within to benefit your awareness, and personal, and relationship coherence. In this time of transition. it is an opportunity to work with the strength of Earth Element to create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being. Experience a personal, relationship, Meridian or Seasonal Repatterning to identify where in your life you can update your resonance with greater support and nurture from within yourself and in your relationships.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, phone, and proxy.

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Coherence: Out of Chaos Comes Order in Resonance Repatterning

In all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order. ~Carl Jung

Resonance Repatterning® works with this creating coherence and order related to patterns in your life that drive chaos. The integrity of your personal health, relationships, work and interaction with the world depends on internal choices. The interaction of your habits, attitudes, thoughts, feelings and beliefs create your experience of life. Creating coherence allows you to choose how you respond to life with greater resilience, harmony and balance.

“Coherence is a state of order or harmony where things hold together and form a unified whole. Non-coherence is defined by chaos. A higher state of coherence is always preceded by chaos. In chaos theory, the new coherent pattern is present, and ready to emerge.”~Chloe Faith Wordsworth, Quantum Change Made Easy

Identifying Chaos Within

The Chinese Five Element and Meridian System is one of the many healing disciplines in Resonance Repatterning® sessions that illustrates how the aspects of chaos or disorder can transform your entire system by working directly where energy is disrupted or blocked. Each element has an aspect of Yin or receptive, and Yang or assertive aspect. This relationship requires harmony and balance between partners. If there is disorder, this particular element and organ system will not function optimally.

In addition, each element relies on the rest of the Five Element and Meridian System for nourishing and tempering aspects to create overall order and harmony in your body-mind system. Coherence depends on communication and work with the rest of the elements and meridians. This means that when Resonance Repatterning sessions identify a particular location, time and level of disorder or chaos in the system and updates the function to greater coherence, the entire body-mind system benefits.

As an example, Water Element is related to your kidneys and bladder. On the physical level, the relationship between these two organs illustrate how the process within an element functions. The Yin organ, Kidney, holds and cultivates chi while detoxifying your body. The Yang organ, bladder, then expels these toxins from the body. Creating coherence between this pair allows for greater coherence or vital energy for your entire body-mind system. Kidneys store ancestral energy, and also delivers and interacts directly with your brain, lungs, liver, spleen and heart. In fact, each element is present in the energy flows of all of the meridians with the body-mind system.

Out of Chaos Comes Order

On the emotional level, Water Element coherence also contributes to your feeling like you can go with the flow of life. When there is a disruption or blockage of energy, you might experience non-coherent feelings of resentment or victimization by relationships and situations surrounding you. Creating order allows you to resonate with greater adaptability, healthy boundaries, courage, and perseverance with the ability to pace yourself as you go.

Kidney’s Impact on System (Water)	Coherent Function	Impact on Non-Coherent Function Issues
Brain (Systemic)	Kidney Qi (Chi) or vital essence	Dementia, Parkinson’s, eczema, issues with focus, memory issues, negative emotions
Lungs (Metal)	Kidney is root of the Lungs, helps with coordination of respiration http://www.shen-nong.com/eng/principles/affectlungs.html	Pneumonia, allergies, asthma, grief, lack of inspiration
Liver (Wood)	Detoxification, stores blood, metabolism, digestion of fat, process nutrients absorbed from small intestine	Liver blood deficient insomnia, hot flashes, Yin Deficiency, anger, frustration, feeling hopeless
Spleen (Earth)	Purifies blood	Immune function issues, issues with feeling unsupported, unable to handle transitions
Heart (Fire)	Harmonizes heart function http://www.kidney.org/atoz/content/heart-and-kidney-connection	Blood pressure issues, rhythm of heart, pace, lack of joy, tolerance, or safe connection with others

Creating Systemic Coherence

Let’s take a look at how the relationship between Metal Element and Water Element interact. The season of fall corresponds with Metal Element. The season of winter corresponds with Water Element. Creating nourishing coherence between these two elements benefits your physical, emotional, mental and core essence experiences. Metal Element depends on the function of your lungs and large intestines. This means that inspiration with the ability to let go of physical and emotional toxins is vital to the coherence of this element. Congested energy can show up physically in your body as a cold, flu or breathing difficulties. It can also show up in feelings, thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs that hold you in survival mode. This can lead to exhaustion and depression over time.

However, resonating with your value and life purpose through resolution of memory imprints from the past can lead you to greater coherence so you can be more in the present, in the flow of life where Water Element’s coherent gifts benefit your health, resilience and vitality through the fall, winter and your life.

It is important to note that Fire Element related to the heart has a tempering coherent effect on Metal Element. Adding joy, connection, discernment, safety, and trust to your life journey goes a long way to creating greater harmony and balance. This creates an update in specific and systemic coherence in the Metal Element Meridian flow.

In working with the coherence muscle-checking system in Resonance Repatterning sessions, it is possible to identify where chaos, congestion, or blocked energy is located in your body-mind system. Through harmonizing and balancing to create greater order systemically, sessions build greater coherence overall. This means that where your vital life energy is depleted or feels in chaos, sessions get to the heart of what you need to experience positive, sustainable, and tangible change. This happens as you re-pattern your life to experience greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

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Earth Element: It’s About Nurture and Support

At this time of year Earth Element from the Chinese Five Element and Meridian System emerges as a time of harvesting the nurture and support of the Earth with berries, fruit, and vegetables. In order to get to this harvest, these plants needed nurture and support. They needed sunlight, rain, watering, fertilizer, pollinators, stakes (support), and protection.

As a human being, you need nurture and support. For this reason, this element focuses on your Stomach and Spleen. How you receive nurture through whole foods, clean water, self-care, exercise, being in nature and the sunlight makes a positive difference in how you experience support in your life.

As an analogy, consider the sunflower. This heliotrope turns its flower-head atop its tall stalk towards the sun as it crosses the sky each day. It is oriented to taking nurture and support. The same concept for resonating with orienting with what allows you to take what is beneficial for you with nurture and support holds true. Once you resonate with this implicitly, you build greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

Nurture and Support for Self

Stomach: First things first, it is important to nurture your body-mind system. When you eat food it is vital to feed the hunger of your organs. When you eat food to nurture and drink water for hydration and energy flow, you are taking care of more than just your physical body. This nurture creates a greater ability to start projects, sustain your attention, respond to life with a sense of center. The term, “HANGRY” points to the reactive response that comes when you are extremely hungry, are eating foods of little nutritional value, or have not nourished yourself for a significant period of time.

Becoming irritable, tired, and unfocused is a result of not getting enough nourishment or hydration. Taking nourishment for your wellness and well-being allows you to feel more at home within your body. When you nourish your body, you also need to digest what you have eaten. Taking a short walk after eating enhances this process as you have Stomach and Spleen acupressure points on the bottom of your feet.

Digesting food and ideas can be similar. This is why it is important to give yourself the time to create the energy flow to access the wisdom from your body-mind system. Know that in the same way, you can only eat one bite at a time, digesting new information or resolving issues in your life need time to register, digest,  to create new insight or resolution.

When you embody and create sustenance within your own body, your home, this creates the potential for interacting with others in a reciprocal way. To the degree that you are connected to your own body equals your ability to see and experience the whole of another person. This means that being able to care, access inner observation, and wisdom from within. At the same time, you become better able to listen and experience your interaction with other people.

For more on Self-Care: http://www.windowstotheheart.net/creating-harmony-and-balance-in-your-giving-and-receiving-in-relationships/

Spleen: On the physical level, spleen serves many purposes that support your body.  It recycles red blood cells, filters blood, stores white blood cells and platelets, and fights bacteria that can cause pneumonia and meningitis. On the emotional and mental levels, you can see how Spleen Official is associated with your ability to support or hold yourself up during a process, project, or situation over time. When you feel that you are a victim of circumstances, can’t take a step forward, or feel disoriented in your own body, this could be a signal from an unresolved earlier experience where you experienced shock, pain, or an empty feeling.  If there was no support for you moving through that experience you might still be responding to that memory imprint. Spleen points to your need to evaluate internal and external resources for support. This could mean talking to someone, delegating, getting more rest, or breaking up a project into parts. It might also mean that you are not yet resonating with taking support for your life, not asking for help, and essentially toughing it out.

It is important to look at how you move through life daily while creating inner support and nurture for your time, energy, and well-being. Taking the message is essential while balancing how much you give to a situation, relationship, or project is directly related to the quality and quantity of life energy you have in your physical and emotional bank account at the time.

Offering Nurture and Support to Others

Family Systems is one of the interdisciplinary healing disciplines in Resonance Repatterning®. This work speaks to the  need for balance in the process of giving and receiving in relationship.*

With empathy, I’m fully with them, and not full of them – that’s sympathy.~ Marshall Rosenberg

From the perspective of Family Systems, offering help to another person (adult) has some guidelines to enhance this balance while respecting, nourishing, and benefiting another person in the process.

1. Give only what you have and take only what you need.
2. Accept circumstances as they are and intervene only when it is possible.
3. Consider others as adults or peers. Relate to them as equals. Avoid putting yourself in the position of being their “parent.”
4. When you interact with others, know that they have their own parents, family, and ancestors. This has influenced them, and also is a link to their vital life energy which is their birthright.

The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.~ Carl R. Rogers

With that said, being present with others by focusing your attention, facing them, listening, and affirming what you hear them say are powerful ways to help. By doing so, you are creating the capacity for the other person to experience themselves more deeply. This allows the other person to call upon their inner capacity of support and nurture without taking away their sovereignty.

For more on Giving and Receiving: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/making-space-in-your-life-for-self-care/

When you resonate with being more at home within your own body, this creates the potential for feeling at home in new situations and places, and on the planet. This is because you take your home with you, and experiencing others with their own sovereignty allows you to feel more at peace within. Earth Element has a lot to give and teach us about nurture and support.

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*Resonance Repatterning® acknowledges the work of Magui Block who brought Bert Hellinger’s Family Systems process to this body of work.

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