Posted by Kimberly Rex

Hosting Love Within

Hosting love in your life starts from within. This is created by nourishing safety and trust in your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs you choose to communicate and act upon in any given moment . It is rooted in self-love, setting healthy boundaries, self-reflection and self-regulation.

“Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”  ~Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Hosting Love Begins with Self-Love

Self-love leads to self care. This means that you develop compassion for your life on the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual levels. By doing so you embrace all of the parts of yourself that experienced pain as well as the parts that have been there for you when you needed to meet challenges. Being able to listen to what is happening within gives you information that supports your beliefs, thoughts and behaviors that have molded your life, as well as giving you a template to work with to sculpt the new life you would like to experience

Early in life, your response systems to stress were structured by what you learned from your family and caregivers. Difficulty loving yourself shows up in your adult relationships when you have experienced a painful experiences created by absence, inconsistency, or abuse that instilled a lack of safety and trust.

As you learn to compassionately take care of your needs and wants in life today, you give yourself a way to ground and expand your awareness beyond your automatic responses. This allows you to be present in the moment with a more expansive view of what you are experiencing. It also then allows you to call up on these insights to see what is happening with other people.

Hosting Love with Healthy Boudaries

Boundaries are necessary for your health and well-being. Your body gives you signals that tell you when you feel elated or ill at ease. Your stomach might churn, your muscles tighten, and your heartbeat races. Over time when you do not establish boundaries based on what will create safety and security for your wellness and well-being, your body signals in stronger messages. This could include headaches, difficulty with digestion, physical mobility, or life-depleting conditions. These signals speak to you on the cellular level to express the need for establishing limits.

Through resonance on the unconscious level, you will continue to draw to you the relationships that contain the puzzle pieces of your early Social Engagement System.Your adult relationships will continue to give you the components of your first relationship with your parents. The limiting embodied protective automatic responses will create anxiety, stress, mistrust, fear of being vulnerable, emotional unavailability, neediness, or caretaking,

Your system might have learned to tough it out, tolerate or ignore signals that indicate danger or boundary crossing due to conflict resolution styles of your parents, abandonment, separation, loss, traumatic experiences or addiction to guard against pain.

Today, as an adult, when faced with the need to set a healthy boundary in your life for yourself or with others, you might not speak up, lash out, isolate, leave, or attempt to please the other to keep the peace. Your system defaults to early and habitual patterns you learned to handle trauma.

Loving yourself gives you the ability to connect to others in new ways that create discernment, safety and trust. It allows you to trust your internal feelings, body sensations and values. By doing so you create a healthy environment for trusting yourself and others that are worthy of trust, moving toward what is life-enhancing or away from what is life-depleting to allow healthy bonding and connection with self-care and boundaries in place.

Anatomy of Trust with B.R.A.V.I.N.G. from Brene’ Brown

Hosting Love with Self Reflection

Hosting love with self-reflection is key to healing limiting beliefs, thoughts and automatic reactions is through bringing to awareness or making conscious how these limiting patterns established through your life and Family System. Your parents and likely their parents experienced these life-depleting ways of dealing with closeness and conflict. You received this teaching through their words, actions and behaviors. The resulting negative beliefs get projected onto your adult relationships with automatic limiting beliefs such as “Love causes pain,”You cannot trust (fill in the blank),” It is my fault,” “They will leave me,”“Love hurts.” (They is used to represent any type of relationship).

It is important to acknowledge that you have the ability to work with and change these automatic reactions from the past by examining the roadmap of these patterns when they come up.According to Gabriella Kortsch, PhD, self-regulation starts with your intention and desire to become aware enough to be reflective with your ability to notice how you are perceiving whatever is happening. This includes your ability to notice how you are reacting and interpreting what is happening through your thoughts, feelings and inner dialogue. This awareness then leads you to remembering that you have choices about next steps throughout the entire process, and you can choose what is good for your own life.

Hosting Love with Self Regulation/Soothing

Taking time to self-reflect is vital to hosting love within.This is where choices show up. Triggers show up in everyone’s life. Smoking, drinking, binging, shopping, high risk or adrenalin rising behaviors, overeating, shopping, binge watching movies, workaholism, etc. can be external go-to’s when unease arises. While this might work on a short term basis, this doesn’t lead to resolving the issues so you can experience something new in your life related to what you would truly like to experience.

How you regulate your response to triggers that create agitation, anxiety, fear, grief and pain that numb or delay the pain temporarily feeds the established neural pathways of pain from the past, or you can choose natural ways to create nurture and support within.

Hosting love by choosing natural ways to self-soothe to create calm in your system trains your body-mind-spirit system by regulating how you respond to stress leads to greater wellness and well-being for the long-term. You are designed for self-healing. Focusing on new go-to’s that respond to the question, “Is this kind?” while considering next steps is a great way to work with Self-Reflection.Will the response you choose lead to new healing pathways within by activating your Sympathetic Nervous System (rest, digest, calm, and heal)? Will the choices strengthen your ability to host more love within as you navigate your life and relationships?

The following two articles give you some ideas for this purpose:by finding neutral to create positive change in your life and using your innate senses to create natural endorphin stress responses. You can explore this website for other natural modalities including breath, movement, acupressure, meditation, gratitude, aromatherapy, light, sound, etc. for more ideas.

Resonance Repatterning® Sessions are based on working with your body-mind-spirit systems’ ability for hosting love in your body-mind-spirit system. This means that the pain you experience on any level can be an opportunity for creating new possibilities in your life.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, by phone, and by proxy.

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Resonance Repatterning FAQ

Get your questions about Resonance Repatterning answered with this Resonance Repatterning FAQ, Frequently Asked Questions page.

1. 1.  How does a Resonance Repatterning® session work?
      A session starts with an orientation to the process. This is done verbally and with an Orientation page that helps you understand this confidential healing process. Read more about How Changing Your Resonance Changes Your Life
   2. How does resonance muscle-checking work?
      The Nervous System is connected to every muscle, tissue, organ, and gland of the body. Every muscle has a binary response: a strong/flexed or relaxed response. Your body is a map of your life’s experience. That means we can access conscious and unconscious material in a session. Muscle-checking is a way to tap into this information. The information recorded in the muscle-check is registering where your life energy is dedicated.At the beginning of a session, the client and the practitioner work together to create statements to focus on the session’s purpose. The entire session involves muscle-checking. At the beginning of a session, a client is resonating with their issues, and not resonating with their positive intentions. The purpose of your session is to identify limitations, blocks, and disruptions in your body-mind field that have kept you feeling stuck or felt like an obstacle in your life. In this system, pain is a block or interruption of energy. In a session, this is identified by the muscle-check through lack of resonance (or lack of life energy dedication) for your positive intentions. The terms ON and OFF are used to identify resonance. A strong/flexed response from the muscle is ON and a relaxed position of the muscle is OFF. Through the course of a session, your resonance changes. By the end of a session you are resonating with your positive intentions or ON for them through muscle-checking, and OFF for your issues.
   3. How does resonance muscle-checking access information in the body-mind field?
      There are three kinds of muscle-checks in this system. The first is a general check which means that the information in the body-mind field is global. The second check is specific. This means there is a particular place or area in the field that needs support, a level where it manifests physically, emotionally, mentally, or on the spirit level (core essence of Self), and a particular time in your life that is reporting a block, obstacle, or issue. The third check is umbilical which is a muscle-check that is done at the belly button. When this check is done, the practitioner cups their hand over the belly button to check for core life energy. When this muscle-check is OFF it means that there is zero life energy or no toleration for the statement.
   4. How can Resonance Repatterning sessions work with issues from the past?
      Information can be accessed at any place on the time-space continuum. That means that a session can work with pre-natal, generational, and even with RNA/DNA and vision.  Your Nervous System is connected to every muscle, tissue, and gland in the body. Your body is a map of your life’s experiences. A Resonance Repatterning session works because it is accessing information from both conscious and unconscious material through muscle-checking. Your body is designed for success and self-healing. Identifying places where energy has become less than optimal due to stress overload, pain, trauma, shock or abuse is an opportunity to shift material from the past. This is like taking the kink out of a garden hose that has very little flow so that you can experience greater life energy in the present for the positive intentions you bring to a session. Find out how a Resonance Repatterning session impacts your life.
   5. How does energy get unblocked in a session?
      There are now hundreds of repatterning protocols. When a protocol is muscle-checked for the purpose of your session’s needs, it works with the coherent and non-coherent aspects of issues and intentions you bring to the session. This means that the practitioner is working with abundant resource lists from consciousness science to identify the underlying foundation of the work that is needed. Then statements are checked for resonance. The non-coherent statements are messengers that identify underlying material that has shaped your issues. The coherent statements build the bridge to greater awareness, resources, possibilities, and opportunities. Sessions also work with Earlier Experiences that have impacted your body-mind field function or created pain. Energy Constrictions help to work with the material in a loving and nurturing way to update your memory bank. Unlimited potential exists in every moment. By bringing greater awareness and healing to the impact of an event from the past, positive change happens. Everything is energy. A session is always working with frequency and energy which means that your process will work with energy modalities from sound, movement, breath, fragrance, color, light, and energetic contact. All of the modalities are natural. Sometimes a session works with family or organizational patterns related to generational issues. Read more about this topic here.
   6. What is Family Systems?
      Family Systems is a process developed by Bert Hellinger. There are a number of repatterning sessions based on this work. Read more about Family Systems Here.

2. Resonance Repatterning FAQ’s: Having a Session

3. 

   1. How does an in-person session work with muscle-checking?
      In a face-to-face session, the facilitator works with their left hand to muscle-check the direction of the session. The facilitator works with the left arm of the client to check for resonance. The muscle-check indicates a flexed or relaxed response.
   2. Resonance Repatterning Principles:https://resonancerepatterning.com/our-principles/
   3. How do Resonance Repatterning sessions work by telephone?
      The practitioner uses applied kinesiology or muscle-checking to check for the direction of the session with their left hand. This is done with two fingers for the muscle-check. With their right hand, they muscle-check on behalf of the client with a two-finger muscle-check. The client is actively involved in creating and repeating statements. The client participates in the modality with the practitioner. If it is not possible for the client to actively participate in a modality, the practitioner proxies for the client. This works equally as well in teleconference group sessions on behalf of the group.
   4. What does proxy mean?
      A proxy session is one where the practitioner stands in for the client. I have worked with human and animal clients who are unconscious, in a coma, pre-verbal or non-verbal for this purpose. Because at the energetic level everything is connected in the Unified Field, this works. I’ve worked with clients 6000 miles away with positive and sustainable positive results. This means a session can happen for infants and animals as well. I muscle-check the statements with my left hand and proxy for the client with my right hand. I also proxy all of the modalities. These sessions are written out or recorded so that you have access to the work through email or an mp3 link.      

Resonance Repatterning FAQ: What Happens After a Session?

1. What might I expect after a session?
   After a session, you will experience shifts in your personal and relationship awareness. Your session you will gain insight, get resources, and next steps for your positive intentions. Your sense of well-being and wellness will update towards greater vitality and opportunity. The process updates your memory bank down to the cellular level so that you are resonating at the energy level with your positive intentions. Timing depends on the individual. Everything is natural in this process. Some clients report immediate change. Some report subtle changes in their perspective, decisions, and next steps over time. Others experience change within the period of their session and Positive Action.  Find out how  Resonance Repatterning sessions create positive change.
2. What is Positive Action?
   Upon the completion of your session, the facilitator muscle-checks for an action that might be needed to continue the benefits of your session. Sometimes there is a statement in the session that needs further action or support to shift. These are natural modalities or activities that will enhance the work you have done. Positive Actions are identified during the session and are also sent to you after the session via email with details regarding completing them. Read more about Positive Actions in Resonance Repatterning here.
3. How many sessions do I need to see a change?
   The number of sessions depends on the client’s needs. Some clients come in for one session while others continue to work to clear limiting beliefs, patterns, and obstacles in their path with the goal of creating more optimal life energy to manifest their positive intentions. We all have major transitions in our lives. When there has been a major loss, grief, tragedy, abuse, accident, divorce or health issue, sessions help you go beyond the pain and inner conflict so that you experience greater inner peace and choices in your life. In this case, clients working with this natural process experience nurture and support for their process over time. I have worked with clients for blocks of time over months and years. As a practitioner, I stay in touch with my clients after a session.
4. What kind of support will I receive after the session?
   Kimberly offers 10-minute follow-ups by phone, Skype, or email to help you with processing updates or answer questions about your sessions.

Resonance Repatterning FAQ: How Do I Set Up a Session?

How do I schedule a session?                                                                          

Contact Kimberly Rex, MS at kimberly@windowstotheheart.net or call (360) 739-0162. If this is your first time experiencing Resonance Repatterning, you can discuss session length and arrange for your personal session. You can also register for a session here if you know what time you need. Long-term session blocks,  quarterly, and yearly arrangements can be discussed with Kimberly,  as well.                              

After contacting Kimberly, a first session or proxy for a person, couple, group, or animal who needs the session there is an orientation and focus questionnaire to start the process. In some cases, a parent or pet owner stands in as a proxy for their child or pet. This is all muscle-checked.

Are Resonance Repatterning Sessions confidential?     

What is discussed in repatterning and coaching sessions are held in confidence, and not shared with others without permission. Testimonials or case studies are gratefully accepted and are shared only with permission from the person to and with Windows to the Heart Repatterning. 

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