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Is Fear from the Past Still Driving?

Where Does Fear Originate?

Fear can originate from many sources. Some of these sources could be from the past, a traumatic event, or a reaction to what you have been taught to believe about yourself or others. Fear can be short or long-term based on the factors involved, and the quality of the resources you had for resolution at the time of that fear-invoking event in your life.  If you had no opportunity to experience safety or connection with calm or healing at that time, you are likely still being driven by the emotions, beliefs, and thoughts from that fear state. The question is, “Is fear from the past still driving?”

Babies and children do not have the same capacity to reason through a threatening or fear-invoking incident as an adult. The developing brain of a child relies heavily on cues from the environment and caretakers from the perspective of the survival and emotional brain.

It can take the reasoning brain well into your mid-20’s to fully operate based on reasoning and ability to discern aspects of the situation, as well as to put distance between a past event and the present. No matter what or when an experience that provokes fear, creates a reaction in your Nervous System. This triggers the need for survival based on your thoughts, emotions, and lens of perception from past experiences.

Your internal sense of feeling or senses can be a source of conflict that feels uncomfortable. Based on your current ability to regulate being present with the discernment for what is happening and sorting through its meaning from a place of survival, emotion and reason are largely based on how your autonomic nervous system responds to an event or situation. This means that your body-mind system has an automatic, cellular, heart, muscle, nerve, muscle, tissue, emotional, and mental function in the process. Emotions, positive or negative affect your physical, emotional, and mental health.

What Causes Fear?

Fear can be personal, relational, or even cultural. Fear can be superimposed over one or all three of these areas of your life.

What you believe is true affects how you predict what will happen to you in the outside world. Shedding light on your limiting beliefs, thoughts, and attitudes about your life creates the possibility for positive change.

A major event in the world could affect how you travel, what you believe about other people and groups, and can affect how you look at the world politically.

In a recent telecast, I was listening to the ex-president of Mexico speak about the horrific event of 9/11. He attributed, in part, nationalism, and fear in the United States as a residual reaction to this event of terror. The Nervous System of a country can also be triggered into the stance of extreme protection, fight, flight or freeze in response to unresolved emotional and survival defense mechanisms.

The mechanism of fear can be activated by trauma in the world related to nature such as hurricanes, tornadoes, animals, insects, and large bodies of water. Fear can be triggered in situations like public speaking or going to the dentist. States of being and connection with spirituality can also evoke fear related to death, the concept of the Divine, the Silence, the unknown, or being alone.

Relationships can motivate fear response that leads to isolation, arguments, or intimacy based on earlier experiences, how you witnessed resolution of the conflict in your family or healing or lack of resolution of situations that provoked fear in your early life can still be at play in your life today. The idea of being in the world, or unable to set boundaries with the world, needing to feel like you have to be in control, or fear of losing control can be extremely frightening.

How Do You Know You are Still Reacting to Fear?

The common characteristics of fear include a change in heartbeat and breathing. You might hold your breath. Your muscles tighten and your thinking moves from reasoning to survival. This changes how your body responds to the world around you. Tension is held in your body so that even your vision and posture changes. Being in extended states of fear from the trauma that has not resolved creates a habitual alert response that over time takes its toll on how you interact and perceive the world.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. ~Marcus Aurelius

From the Chinese Five Element View

Fear is the non-coherent quality of the Water Element related to your kidneys and bladder. When you are responding to the world through the lens of fear you are more likely to perceive yourself as a victim in your circumstances and life. Because your body-mind system responds to this stance even at the cellular level, the communication within the physical systems of your body moves into protection mode. This limits the capacity for systemic communication throughout the body.

Because it dedicates so much of its energy to the fear response. This leads to the feeling of overwhelming created by the sheer effort it takes to protect or defend yourself instead of being able to connect with other people and explore new ways of being in the world for health, relationship, and business opportunities.

When you move into the coherent aspects of Water Element in collaboration with the rest of the body-mind system possibilities, you expand your ability to connect with the vital essence of your body-mind system. This creates more optimal life energy for your own life.

In relationships, you have a better ability to connect with others in a way that listens to what others are communicating as you are in contact with your own needs for the ability to be able to respond with greater clarity in the present.

Imagine being able to shift into greater calm and resourcefulness. These are the resources that Water Element offers when you resolve fear so that you are better able to reflect and adapt to situations. This allows you to then pace yourself through different projects and situations while taking care of your own boundaries as well as greater perseverance so that your energy reserves are there when you need them. By resolving issues of fear you have a greater capacity to connect to your needs for love, nurture, safety, and trust. This allows you to move from fear to a greater feeling of self-love in the process.

Here is an opportunity to continue on the path with monthly healing modalities and repatterning events from Windows to the Heart Repatterning. Sign up for monthly newsletter here: Newsletter and Exclusive Re-pattern Your Life Events

 Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, a Master Wellness and Well-being Life Coach, and a Person-Centered Expressive Therapist.

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4 Stages of Disease: The Interaction between Your Kidneys, Liver and Heart

4 Stages of Disease Leading to Chronic Illness 

Chinese Traditional Medicine TCM looks at the pathway of disease from the perspective of the relationship between organ and meridian systems. The heart is the emperor of the body-mind system, however, in order to begin the healing process, the heart must connect with kidney. When there is a disorder of stagnation in the kidney your liver is affected. When your liver is negatively affected this impacts your heart.  This starts with distortions in how you think related to what you believe and see in life. This, then, can lead to both emotional and physical imbalance.

When there have been long-standing issues with unresolved emotions and perception of victimization or overwhelm over time, dis-ease becomes more likely a possibility. This happens through 1) Shen Stagnation 2) Chi Stagnation 3) Blood Stagnation and resulting 4) Body Stagnation.

The interaction and relationship between your organ systems impact the integrity of your wellness and well-being. 

From the Kidney’s Perspective

The kidney relates directly to the reptilian brain function. This means that survival, fear, and overwhelm in your current life get translated into how the energy in your body-mind system is communicated throughout your body. Kidney stores short-term memory. The impact of the relationship to the reptilian brain can make it difficult to discern what is a current danger or a residual thought, belief, or attitude about a stressful event or situation from the past. The reptilian brain‘s job is to search for anything that reminds it of previous danger, and then to take action through the fight, flight, or freeze.

In practical terms on a day-to-day basis, this affects how your Nervous System responds to perceived danger and threats. It impacts your Adrenalin response, blood pressure, hormones, cortisol, and sleep cycles. This impacts your ability to retain information accurately in the present. It affects the amount and quality of life energy or vitality you have, your ability to remember important information, and your ability to hear things clearly.

More on Health Implications between Kidney, Adrenal, Excretory and Circulation Impacts

From the Liver’s Perspective

In Chinese Medicine, Liver stores emotion. The liver is related to the Limbic or Emotional Brain. When liver is distorted by anger and frustration is repressed over time, it impacts the way you perceive the world through your thinking and seeing. The ability to modulate your emotional responses to your external environment has an effect on your internal response to challenges.

The liver filters blood and this in turn affects your chi or energy level. When the liver is out of balance, it limits your vision and your ability to see from the perspective of another person. It keeps you from considering that there might be another alternative or possibility. Your decision-making process becomes clouded, and your body-mind system’s ability to prioritize thought and action becomes less clear.

More on Liver’s Impact on Health and Well-being

From the Heart’s Perspective

Heart is the home of the Shen Spirit related to the capacity for compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, tolerance, joy and love. It is primarily related to your reasoning and decision-making Cortex. There are 5 functional responsibilities for the heart including consciousness, thinking, imagination and planning, the ability to modulate emotions and long-term memory according to TCM. Because of these functions, it is important to engage all three places: the kidney, the liver and the heart in order to heal internal conflict and dissonance related to your mental, emotional, physical and spirit.

This is your personal invitation to working with creating greater harmony and balance in your life. As we move into Winter, Water Element related to Kidney and Bladder are the prominent organs that express information for special needs and care. There is much to be acknowledged on the health benefits of starting with the kidneys to inform and play a healing role in transforming the rest of the body-mind system through focusing on nourishing the transformation of your Reptilian Brain’s reaction to trauma from the past and to balance your need for giving and receiving in a loving way within your body, your mind, your relationships and in the world.

Build integrity in your wellness and well-being for the winter months by taking part in a personal Resonance Repatterning® session that works with this purpose to create greater harmony and balance for your kidneys and bladder’s impact on your ability to build life energy to heal the past so you can be more energized and able to go with the flow of life, set boundaries, increase resilience through the winter months.

Here is an opportunity to continue on the path to building integrity in your wellness and well-being with monthly healing modalities and repatterning events from Windows to the Heart Repatterning.

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The New Year and Opportunity for a New Path

The New Year is an opportunity for a new path. Setting this intention is more than wanting something that you don’t currently have. It is connecting to the purpose that your intention serves when connected to your physical, emotional, mental and core essence (spirit) level needs in your life while pointing out where a new path might be needed.

Take for example an intention that has to do with losing weight. While parts of this intention are demonstrated through physical appearance, there are aspects related to a quality of change in your experience of life energy internally. Fear and frustration might be more related to the underlying root and cause of the underlying issues. In fact, when starting to take off the “weight” in pounds, emotions of anger and/or fear often emerge. This indicates that the weight of carrying these emotions is also part of the process in resolving inner conflict, a non-truth, or a truth you are not living.

FEAR: The Reptilian Brain (Fight or Flight) is related to Kidney Meridian function in that the non-coherent aspect of this Meridian is fear, resentment and a feeling of victimization. In this mode, it is almost impossible to be in the flow of life naturally, and to be open to new possibilities.

ANGER: The Limbic or Emotional Brain is related to the Liver. The quality of life you experience with or without resentment, frustration and anger related to on-going stress or unfinished material in your life is directly related to the quality of energy you have to energize your positive intentions in the present. On the physical level, a 2015 study found that an episode of intense anger created the potential of 8.5 times more times likelihood of heart attack . “Researchers speculate the reason is that stress triggers increased heart rate and blood pressure, blood-vessel constriction and clotting, raising the risk.”~ from Time Magazine Issue: 12-28-15*

Overriding negative thoughts, beliefs and cloudy perceptions of the world through the lens of unresolved, repetitive, long term stress and tension reinforces neural pathways embedded in how you experience and react to life on a day-to-day basis. This leads to the inability to see or experience any other way of living life. It is a pathway away from choice, life and spirit purpose.

The quality of how and where your life energy is being used and dedicated is very much related to the quality of your wellness and well-being. When fear, frustration or anger are present, you will more likely experience roadblocks, obstacles and stumbling blocks that keep you feeling frozen or stuck coupled with difficulties with attention, planning and manifestation.

When you address your emotions, conflict and tension held in your body-mind system, you become more aware of your responses in the present, and have the opportunity to look at what is causing your knee-jerk automatic reactions.

MEMORY: The hippocampus, a part of the Emotional Brain, responsible for long-term memory needs to be cleansed of unresolved issues related to fear and anger in order to pave the pathway through the heart into right seeing and action in the present. When this happens, both the liver and kidney are also cleansed. This leads to creating more coherent energy for the function of your heart.

RIGHT ACTION: The Neo-Cortex, is related directly to your heart. In this executive function of the brain comes action and response based on the way you are thinking, feeling and seeing the world. Changing the pathways in your memory bank by resolving and updating your inner pathways to new ones, you are able to literally create greater number of choices and empower your original purpose in doing so. You walk down a new path!

 You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.~ Marianne Williamson

A NEW PATH: The stories and residue that remain in your body-mind system from unconscious limiting generational patterns and earlier experiences influence how you perceive people, places and events. A new road  is taken only when there is a change in thinking. This is done through awareness, forgiveness and compassionate understanding. Taking authorship of your own life through making time and space to clear these fragments leads to new pathways with the potential for more essential integrity of who you really are. In the process, you also reclaim more coherent life energy for your health, well-being, as well as the ability to plan, make decisions based on your current awareness, and problem-solve with greater connection to love, integrity and joy.

The meaning of death in this process is more an allowing to release that which no longer serves a purpose so that you can start anew experiencing more of who you truly are in the present. The body-mind system can update itself with self-healing.

New neurochemical responses emerge with positive action. This can be done in many natural ways that include meditation, making space for curiosity and wonder, movement, breath, sound, light, whole foods, and, of course, Resonance Repatterning© sessions! By doing so, you experience a greater sense of awe and presence in your moment to moment experience of life through the ability to attend and respond. This impacts your health for the better by decreasing the inflammation in your body. For example, a recent study related to awe actually showed a direct correlation in impacting diseases like Type 2 diabetes and arthritis through making space for attention to what is possible, what is amazing and what is right there in front of you!

This happens as you discover a deeper sense of inner peace and sovereignty, greater ease and compassion for your self and others. Looking at life through this new lens allows there to be less stress and more openness to unexpected guidance, synchronicity, support and choice. This connects you to the beauty, acceptance and feeling of an awe-inspiring life!

*Research Sources for How Mood Affects Health

1. Berkeley Study on Awe as an Anti-Inflammatory: https://news.berkeley.edu/2015/02/02/anti-inflammatory/
2. Anger and Heart Attacks: https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/03/13/anger-can-set-off-a-heart-attack/?_r=0
3. Study on Mindfulness and Losing Weight: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/mindful-eating-may-help-with-weight-loss

Here is your personal invitation to explore new beginnings and possibilities to create positive change in your wellness and well-being. Experience a personal Resonance Repatterning®session with Kimberly Rex, MS.  

To start the process contact kimberly@windowstotheheart.net

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