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A Wish for Tenderness, Courage, and Hope

I found this quote that I saved for the holidays long ago. It feels like a good time to speak again about a wish for tenderness, courage, and hope.

“What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, and hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal and that every path may lead to peace.”~Agnes M. Pharo

Tenderness for the Past

As the holidays arrive, it is a reminder to look at life through the lens of compassion and tenderness. Even when issues and situations with family members or others feel uneasy, it is through tenderness that we create compassion. It is through compassion that courage arrives. And, from courage from the heart, hope is possible.

Tenderness for the past can serve as a powerful tool to feed your need for support and nurture you in times of challenge and stress. Creating an anchor image of an experience you had that brought you a sense of joy, love, and gratitude is actually a powerful way to feed your need for comfort and joy in the present. Sharing a story of childhood, first date, or memory that connected you to beauty and awe can also feed the needs of others to share in the experience. Listening to others’ stories that contain this same kind of wonder and love feeds you as well.

The innocence of seeing the first snowfall or holiday ornament, the remembrance of playing games with friends, or the wonder of having a first pet can all remind you of the tenderness of feeling brand-new to experiences. The feeling of appreciation for the parts of yourself that were able to take in a new world despite what was happening that felt challenging can build your capacity to give yourself permission to look at the world today in a new way.

Courage for the Present

In the same way, that tenderness feeds you with the memory of kindness and understanding, giving yourself the gift of tenderness and appreciation feeds your entire body-mind-spirit system now. By having compassion for yourself and your experiences, you can move beyond fear to gain the courage to create positive change.

This means, that today, while these parts of you from early life that allowed you to survive and attach to others continue to attempt to serve you, some of that material might not apply or even be appropriate for what is happening in your life today. So, courage is required to work with these earlier parts of your life to motivate your entire being to update your needs in the place you are today.

To be innocent is to be here as if for the first time, with no attachment to the past. Each moment is actually ever new.”~Adyashanti

With the development of your thinking, reasoning, decision-making, and action-taking brain centers on board as an adult, you now have the ability to consider positive change with your global brain. Your early emotional and survival brains that had unresolved trauma do not know the past or future. While you are still hooked to the past well-established limiting patterns, the trauma body lives in trauma time. That is, until you release, heal and create new neural pathways by mobilizing the energy for good. When you unhook that tether to the past by working with what would have made a coherent difference in the past now, you are better able to take care of unmet needs to create positive changes within yourself in the present.

Hope for the Future

Hope shows up through your ability to rely on the healing cycles of nature and nurture. It shows up with the healing of parts within yourself still connected to your earlier experiences. Traumatic experiences are stored in parts of your body-mind-spirit system and can be accessed for the information and energy stores they hold through the Resonance muscle-checking system in Resonance Repatterning.

The right brain also, often holds the key to unlocking the information within through creativity, Seeing the big picture that developed over time even as a little one can benefit your ability to heal. It is through movement, drawing, and singing. writing, visualizing, or any positive and life-enhancing creative act that allows the parts of yourself to connect to the action and decision-making parts of the executive function in your thinking brain to apply the wisdom within toward hope today.

By casting light within, you are better able to see more fully what light is available around you, to see the broad view, and to also rest in the growth and grace of what is happening to you at any moment. It is in this light that you are better able to know that time and space are flexible while shifting and transforming your experiences today from your past life experiences in the process.

With intention, you, nature, others, and the world at large are shifting and changing in ways that might only be able to be seen with the beginner’s mind. Yet it takes courage and hope from the integral parts of ourselves that reason and has empathy for life rejuvenating itself through cycles of dark and light in which we all take part. In this way, the new pathways lead us to greater internal peace that ripples into the world around us.

Self-Care: Holiday Tips for Finding Tenderness, Courage, and Hope Again

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Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, phone, and proxy.

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Making Medicine from Poison with Expressive Art Therapy

This is the first week of the pen and ink challenge for #Inktober. I decided to make medicine from poison with Person-Centered expressive art therapy. It was an emotional challenge to make medicine from poison in watching the Supreme Court hearings. I found myself feeling peeled open to the core, and felt unprotected in the overwhelm of the abuse, pain, power, and non-coherence. I was spiraling down. I needed to take a break from the chaos and found solace in these drawings. For this reason, after looking at the word prompts for the first week, I decided to make medicine from poison through Person-Centered expressive art therapy.

My drawings started on Day 2 with the word, #Tranquil as Day 1 was #Poisonous, and needed to create medicine from the start. To add stillness in the midst of all of this material that derailed my energy, my breath, and my sense of well-being was the healing template for gathering all the words together to create wholeness. The Chinese characters in the upper left-hand corner with the protection mudra mean, “Peace and Safety.” The protection mudra has within it a beam of light with a flame and heart. Protection and a sense of peace create a calm heart and are home to the hearth of safety and trust.

I decided to make medicine through the week from the image of #tranquil to transform the #poison. This pen and ink, in its current iteration, is the result of navigating these waters.

The other drawing cues were #Roasted, #Chicken, #Drooling, #Spell. #Venom and #Exhausted. The symbols are all interpreted from the beginning with Buddha in tranquility offering the protection mudra. Safety is a harbor in the midst of poisonous material whose venom can affect us at our core if we allow it. The rooster in Buddhism is a reference to “desire.” Whether it is a desire for a particular personal outcome, or the desire on the big screen of our world, staying in touch with your breath to support your well-being is key to sustain your health and energy reserves. Self-care allows you to pace yourself over time.

The moon is a reference to emotion, and a reference to the spell emotions can cast when attached to an outcome or overwrought with emotions. Mindfulness through meditation, coming into a still place, and accessing the bigger picture creates the opportunity to regulate our emotions. The venom and “drooling” related to force without heart or compassion create imbalance. This imbalance immobilizes and restricts your ability to feel centered, connected to love,

However, tuning into the messages from inside your breath and your heart, makes it easier to relax, feel calmer, hear the messages, receive the guidance and the balance that is needed to respond to feelings in the present, take action, or ask for help in the process.  For more information on how to use breath patterns to create calm in your body-mind system and create natural endorphin-stress responses, read more here: http://www.windowstotheheart.net/remembering-to-breathe-on-the-emotional-roller-coaster/

It is a process, and the road seems long, even if it is opening in ways we do not yet know or understand. But, I do know that as I look at this Medicine Buddha, there are options, and through breathing and pacing ourselves we can all deepen and expand our heart connections to create positive change even if it is one step at a time.

I now have this Medicine Buddha on a music stand in my living room to take in all of the images. Please use this Medicine Buddha, if you feel called, as a reminder that you, too, are protected. You, too, are safe. You, too, are loved.

Much love,

Kimberly

Personal Note: This ink drawing is made with a technique called Pointillism with stippling. I am still wanting to add more detail with color or brush. I love multi-media so I could not resist adding the glass shapes over the images that were drawn underneath. Next week I am looking forward to creating a new possibility with ink and brush.

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Information Within the Webs of Life

On a day-to-day basis, you are receiving and experiencing life based on the influences that have informed your body, mind, and core essence of self from conception. Your attitudes, beliefs, culture, and family structure weave a tapestry of connecting these informational webs of life.

These webs serve a purpose. They allow you to receive nurture, to understand the way the world works, and give structure and meaning beginning even at the most formative stages of development, in your mother’s womb.

This information is passed through the embryonic fluid, through the vibration of sound and tone of your mother’s voice, her stress levels, her preferences for food. and her hormonal responses to the world around her. In Annie Murphy Paul‘s book, Origins: How the Nine Months Before Birth Shape the Rest of Our Lives, she details the research evidence that proves that learning begins earlier than you might think.

  In addition to this information, you are also accessing the generational line of culture, beliefs, and health paradigms of your ancestral line in the womb. Your mother developed in your grandmother’s womb. Both your father and mother were fertilized eggs joined by the spark of life created by the union of the egg and sperm of their parents, and so on.

For this reason, it is vital to acknowledge the influence of generational as well as pre-natal information in your experience of life today.

Making Change in Your Time

The world is rapidly changing with significant requirements for flexibility, resilience, and co-creation culturally, economically, and environmentally. It is a different life than that of your grandparents or even your parents. Yet there are lessons to be learned from your ancestral line and your life experiences. This information is stored within your bio-energetic field. By taking the learning from the events, history, and belief systems, it is possible to build new paradigms and awaken to new possibilities for a life of greater freedom, self-awareness, and understanding.

You are connected to your ancestral line that goes back for many thousand years. In the film Genetic Rivers written by Janus Roze, he speaks of DNA research that looks at ancestral ties across centuries. Within these webs of connection, your ancestors were likely from many places on the planet through trade, shifts in government, slavery, wars, and the need for geographical movement for the sake of continuing life. If you were to look back far enough, perhaps you would find that you are indeed joined to many other parts of the planet., languages, religions, and belief systems.

The research of Franz Popp details that DNA emits light and can be influenced by shifts in consciousness. These changes have the capacity to create greater wellness and well-being not only for self but for others through healing in the webs of connection. Your contribution to the web of life is essential. In his film, Genetic Rivers, Janis Roze speaks to both the river of DNA and consciousness that makes you unique in this moment.

The light that you radiate through your choices, actions, words, and interactions with others makes a difference on the cellular, personal, relationship, and global levels. Know that you are an important link in the web, and you are in the process of awakening to consciousness. “You are the cutting edge of human consciousness that creates the future.” ~Janis Roze  

 What will your impact be?

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Is Fear from the Past Still Driving?

Where Does Fear Originate?

Fear can originate from many sources. Some of these sources could be from the past, a traumatic event, or a reaction to what you have been taught to believe about yourself or others. Fear can be short or long-term based on the factors involved, and the quality of the resources you had for resolution at the time of that fear-invoking event in your life.  If you had no opportunity to experience safety or connection with calm or healing at that time, you are likely still being driven by the emotions, beliefs, and thoughts from that fear state. The question is, “Is fear from the past still driving?”

Babies and children do not have the same capacity to reason through a threatening or fear-invoking incident as an adult. The developing brain of a child relies heavily on cues from the environment and caretakers from the perspective of the survival and emotional brain.

It can take the reasoning brain well into your mid-20’s to fully operate based on reasoning and ability to discern aspects of the situation, as well as to put distance between a past event and the present. No matter what or when an experience that provokes fear, creates a reaction in your Nervous System. This triggers the need for survival based on your thoughts, emotions, and lens of perception from past experiences.

Your internal sense of feeling or senses can be a source of conflict that feels uncomfortable. Based on your current ability to regulate being present with the discernment for what is happening and sorting through its meaning from a place of survival, emotion and reason are largely based on how your autonomic nervous system responds to an event or situation. This means that your body-mind system has an automatic, cellular, heart, muscle, nerve, muscle, tissue, emotional, and mental function in the process. Emotions, positive or negative affect your physical, emotional, and mental health.

What Causes Fear?

Fear can be personal, relational, or even cultural. Fear can be superimposed over one or all three of these areas of your life.

What you believe is true affects how you predict what will happen to you in the outside world. Shedding light on your limiting beliefs, thoughts, and attitudes about your life creates the possibility for positive change.

A major event in the world could affect how you travel, what you believe about other people and groups, and can affect how you look at the world politically.

In a recent telecast, I was listening to the ex-president of Mexico speak about the horrific event of 9/11. He attributed, in part, nationalism, and fear in the United States as a residual reaction to this event of terror. The Nervous System of a country can also be triggered into the stance of extreme protection, fight, flight or freeze in response to unresolved emotional and survival defense mechanisms.

The mechanism of fear can be activated by trauma in the world related to nature such as hurricanes, tornadoes, animals, insects, and large bodies of water. Fear can be triggered in situations like public speaking or going to the dentist. States of being and connection with spirituality can also evoke fear related to death, the concept of the Divine, the Silence, the unknown, or being alone.

Relationships can motivate fear response that leads to isolation, arguments, or intimacy based on earlier experiences, how you witnessed resolution of the conflict in your family or healing or lack of resolution of situations that provoked fear in your early life can still be at play in your life today. The idea of being in the world, or unable to set boundaries with the world, needing to feel like you have to be in control, or fear of losing control can be extremely frightening.

How Do You Know You are Still Reacting to Fear?

The common characteristics of fear include a change in heartbeat and breathing. You might hold your breath. Your muscles tighten and your thinking moves from reasoning to survival. This changes how your body responds to the world around you. Tension is held in your body so that even your vision and posture changes. Being in extended states of fear from the trauma that has not resolved creates a habitual alert response that over time takes its toll on how you interact and perceive the world.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. ~Marcus Aurelius

From the Chinese Five Element View

Fear is the non-coherent quality of the Water Element related to your kidneys and bladder. When you are responding to the world through the lens of fear you are more likely to perceive yourself as a victim in your circumstances and life. Because your body-mind system responds to this stance even at the cellular level, the communication within the physical systems of your body moves into protection mode. This limits the capacity for systemic communication throughout the body.

Because it dedicates so much of its energy to the fear response. This leads to the feeling of overwhelming created by the sheer effort it takes to protect or defend yourself instead of being able to connect with other people and explore new ways of being in the world for health, relationship, and business opportunities.

When you move into the coherent aspects of Water Element in collaboration with the rest of the body-mind system possibilities, you expand your ability to connect with the vital essence of your body-mind system. This creates more optimal life energy for your own life.

In relationships, you have a better ability to connect with others in a way that listens to what others are communicating as you are in contact with your own needs for the ability to be able to respond with greater clarity in the present.

Imagine being able to shift into greater calm and resourcefulness. These are the resources that Water Element offers when you resolve fear so that you are better able to reflect and adapt to situations. This allows you to then pace yourself through different projects and situations while taking care of your own boundaries as well as greater perseverance so that your energy reserves are there when you need them. By resolving issues of fear you have a greater capacity to connect to your needs for love, nurture, safety, and trust. This allows you to move from fear to a greater feeling of self-love in the process.

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 Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, a Master Wellness and Well-being Life Coach, and a Person-Centered Expressive Therapist.

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