Posted by Kimberly Rex

Making Change Based on the Wisdom of Nature

Making change based on the wisdom of nature benefits your wellness and well-being. At this time of year you can begin to appreciate the harvest of nature’s wealth of offerings in fruit, vegetables, and flowers. In every phase of development, there is a purpose. Nature nourishes the process of development from seed to flower to fruit in every stage. A plant puts its energy in particular parts with right timing. In winter, the energy is focused in the roots, in spring the stem and leaves, in early summer, the buds and flowers, and in late summer, the fruit of the plant with seeds.

This leads to the question of Earth Element’s gifts at this time of year. In Chinese Medicine, this element is related to your stomach and spleen, and related to nuture and support on all levels. There is a quality of this element in every transition in your life, and especially between seasons. As in nature, the process of change from one season to another is gradual rather than sudden. Temperature, sunlight, rain and steadiness in direction all factor into making transition. So it is about pacing yourself over time in any change that gives you the ability to nurture yourself in the process while practicing self-care.

The ability to take support from resources in your life is a process of giving and receiving. For example, in nature at this time of the year fruit and vegetables offer their seeds for the next stage of development to preserve the overall life cycle of the plant itself. It is a preparation for what is to come. In fall, the leaves fall to make room for new buds set for the following spring.The leaves that fall nourish the Earth below to support the lognevity of the roots, and to make fertile the opportunity for new growth.

The Universe doesn’t waste anything. This is a wonderful way to look at transition in our own lives. How has the past prepared you for where you are today? How can you use that nformattion to support and nurture yourself today? It involves looking at the nourishing inspirational aspects as well as places where you have felt grief, remorse or sadness. Held between Earth Element’s invitation to look at support and nurure so you can feel more at home in your body in any circumstance and Metal Element, the prominent energetics of fall, there is always a place for you to process what is happening within.

Feeling at home in your own body whether you are starting or seeding something, growing from an experience, harvesting what you have learned from life, or needing to root and ground yourself to preserve and protect your energy in the process of change makes all the difference in how you move forward. Being in sync with nature allows you move from a place of resistance to resilience.

Supporting Yourself with the Wisdom of Nature

The following articles on this website give nurture and support for your life as in nature for where you are in the process at this transition time.

For Grounding in Your Roots: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/grounding-yourself-to-get-centered-and-oriented-to-the-present/

For Growing: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/creating-nurture-and-support-within/

For Flowering: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/faith-hope-and-wonder-essential-for-change

For Creating Seeds of New Possibilities https://www.windowstotheheart.net/reaching-depths-for-new-possibilities/

---

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, by phone, and by proxy.

Find out how Resonance Repatterning benefits your life. Set up a personal session or sign up for a free monthly newsletter with articles, natural healing modalities, and exclusive group repatterning processes.

Read More

Posted by Kimberly Rex

Creating Nurture and Support Within

You can create nurture and support from within. Late summer is the time of Earth Element related to your stomach and spleen in Traditional Chinese Medicine. This translates into better digestion as well as a better ability to adapt to transitions on the emotional, mental, and spirit levels. You are what you digest and then assimilate whether that be food, ideas, feelings, or where you place your attention.

Nurture and Support on the Physical Level

The spleen plays its part in the digestion process and transformation of liquids, blood in filtering out old blood cells and storing white blood cells for immune function. When Spleen is out of balance you might be experiencing issues with digestion, fatigue, menstrual issues, processing of blood sugar, issues with abdominal pain, anemia, edema, insomnia, hypo-or hyper-acidity, gout, or eating disorders particular to anorexia.

If you find yourself in a spin cycle of worry, look at how, when, and what you are eating. It is important to choose whole foods, eat slowly so you can savor and appreciate what you are ingesting. If you find yourself craving sugar for endorphins, know that you are needing sweetness in your life. If you crave sugar and are having digestion issues, you might have an Earth Element imbalance. This imbalance can actually create an increased growth of bacteria that can create greater disharmony in your body-mind system. However, again, this craving is a signal to create a calm, nourishing, and supportive environment in your life.

To encourage healthy digestion and assimilation for energy for your body-mind system, you can also use food and fragrance to support your overall health and well-being. Some of the essential oils and herbs that you can use in aromatherapy such as Frankincense, or cooking with some of these herbs, making teas like fennel, wintergreen, peppermint (spearmint if peppermint is too hot for your digestion); lemongrass, or lavender. Are supportive for digestion of both food and ideas, nurturing and letting go.

To create more tissue and muscle tone, nurture and support your body by taking walks two or three times a day while swinging your arms. This is good for your back and for healing your stomach area. This will also allow you to experience more energy in your body and engage more deeply in the present moment feeling more secure, stable, and balanced.

Handling transitions in life can produce worry when you do not feel at home within your own body or have a sense of direction for what is coming next. When Earth Element is out of balance, you can feel out of sorts within yourself meaning that you feel ungrounded, perhaps more in struggle, and disconnected from appreciation and gratitude for what is present to offer you true support and nurture in the moment.

Shift your attention to what you love, to your friendships, what you enjoy, and what brings laughter into your life. Get in touch with your own creativity, sense of purpose, spirituality, and what brings meaning to your life. Give yourself time for relaxation, sleep, and experiencing beauty within yourself and around you.

“Your mind takes its shape gradually from what you routinely rest your mind upon.”~Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Nurture and Support on the Emotional Level

In order to create more harmony and balance, it is important to work with transforming the energy of resonance from lack of support to resonance with support within and from the world around you. This imbalance can be expressed in self-doubt and a poor sense of self-worth. One way to shift this material is to work with gratitude for your own life. Become more aware of your body, your journey through life, and the ways you have been able to choose what is life-energizing. Use affirmations like, “I am grateful for my intentions for what I know is right for my life,” and “ I appreciate who I am.” Make a practice of looking for the sweetness in your life as you go through the day.

Nurture and Support on the Mental Level

The same holds true for transitions and change in your life. Worry, speed and pressure take you out of your center. The stress from these states narrow your physical vision and send you into a spiral out of your thinking and problem-solving brain into your emotional and survival brain where expansive thinking is not possible. Taking time to “rest and digest’ allows you to create, sustain, and let go of what is needed to create sustainable and tangible change in your life. When you are faced with change, acknowledge your need for stillness to process your feelings, thoughts, and body sensations to allow you to be more present to create a broader vision of what is possible.

At the same time, it’s important to take a look at where you are overextended in taking care of others and in situations where you attempt to be needed or wanted based on your offering of sweetness. Grounding yourself creates balance within that creates true nourishment for your life while setting loving and healthy boundaries with others. This allows you to resonate with being enough while you support yourself moving through life in the moment.

Asking for or receiving support and nurture from others is also another possibility on your palette for coherent giving and receiving. Internal awareness allows you to move towards recognizing and taking what benefits your life and attracting empowered people.

Resonance Repatterning sessions work to create greater harmony within to benefit your awareness, and personal, and relationship coherence. In this time of transition. it is an opportunity to work with the strength of Earth Element to create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being. Experience a personal, relationship, Meridian or Seasonal Repatterning to identify where in your life you can update your resonance with greater support and nurture from within yourself and in your relationships.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, phone, and proxy.

Find out how Resonance Repatterning benefits your life. Set up a personal session or sign up for a free monthly newsletter with articles, natural healing modalities, and exclusive group sessions here.

Read More

Posted by Kimberly Rex

Earth Element: It’s About Nurture and Support

At this time of year Earth Element from the Chinese Five Element and Meridian System emerges as a time of harvesting the nurture and support of the Earth with berries, fruit, and vegetables. In order to get to this harvest, these plants needed nurture and support. They needed sunlight, rain, watering, fertilizer, pollinators, stakes (support), and protection.

As a human being, you need nurture and support. For this reason, this element focuses on your Stomach and Spleen. How you receive nurture through whole foods, clean water, self-care, exercise, being in nature and the sunlight makes a positive difference in how you experience support in your life.

As an analogy, consider the sunflower. This heliotrope turns its flower-head atop its tall stalk towards the sun as it crosses the sky each day. It is oriented to taking nurture and support. The same concept for resonating with orienting with what allows you to take what is beneficial for you with nurture and support holds true. Once you resonate with this implicitly, you build greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

Nurture and Support for Self

Stomach: First things first, it is important to nurture your body-mind system. When you eat food it is vital to feed the hunger of your organs. When you eat food to nurture and drink water for hydration and energy flow, you are taking care of more than just your physical body. This nurture creates a greater ability to start projects, sustain your attention, respond to life with a sense of center. The term, “HANGRY” points to the reactive response that comes when you are extremely hungry, are eating foods of little nutritional value, or have not nourished yourself for a significant period of time.

Becoming irritable, tired, and unfocused is a result of not getting enough nourishment or hydration. Taking nourishment for your wellness and well-being allows you to feel more at home within your body. When you nourish your body, you also need to digest what you have eaten. Taking a short walk after eating enhances this process as you have Stomach and Spleen acupressure points on the bottom of your feet.

Digesting food and ideas can be similar. This is why it is important to give yourself the time to create the energy flow to access the wisdom from your body-mind system. Know that in the same way, you can only eat one bite at a time, digesting new information or resolving issues in your life need time to register, digest,  to create new insight or resolution.

When you embody and create sustenance within your own body, your home, this creates the potential for interacting with others in a reciprocal way. To the degree that you are connected to your own body equals your ability to see and experience the whole of another person. This means that being able to care, access inner observation, and wisdom from within. At the same time, you become better able to listen and experience your interaction with other people.

For more on Self-Care: http://www.windowstotheheart.net/creating-harmony-and-balance-in-your-giving-and-receiving-in-relationships/

Spleen: On the physical level, spleen serves many purposes that support your body.  It recycles red blood cells, filters blood, stores white blood cells and platelets, and fights bacteria that can cause pneumonia and meningitis. On the emotional and mental levels, you can see how Spleen Official is associated with your ability to support or hold yourself up during a process, project, or situation over time. When you feel that you are a victim of circumstances, can’t take a step forward, or feel disoriented in your own body, this could be a signal from an unresolved earlier experience where you experienced shock, pain, or an empty feeling.  If there was no support for you moving through that experience you might still be responding to that memory imprint. Spleen points to your need to evaluate internal and external resources for support. This could mean talking to someone, delegating, getting more rest, or breaking up a project into parts. It might also mean that you are not yet resonating with taking support for your life, not asking for help, and essentially toughing it out.

It is important to look at how you move through life daily while creating inner support and nurture for your time, energy, and well-being. Taking the message is essential while balancing how much you give to a situation, relationship, or project is directly related to the quality and quantity of life energy you have in your physical and emotional bank account at the time.

Offering Nurture and Support to Others

Family Systems is one of the interdisciplinary healing disciplines in Resonance Repatterning®. This work speaks to the  need for balance in the process of giving and receiving in relationship.*

With empathy, I’m fully with them, and not full of them – that’s sympathy.~ Marshall Rosenberg

From the perspective of Family Systems, offering help to another person (adult) has some guidelines to enhance this balance while respecting, nourishing, and benefiting another person in the process.

1. Give only what you have and take only what you need.
2. Accept circumstances as they are and intervene only when it is possible.
3. Consider others as adults or peers. Relate to them as equals. Avoid putting yourself in the position of being their “parent.”
4. When you interact with others, know that they have their own parents, family, and ancestors. This has influenced them, and also is a link to their vital life energy which is their birthright.

The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.~ Carl R. Rogers

With that said, being present with others by focusing your attention, facing them, listening, and affirming what you hear them say are powerful ways to help. By doing so, you are creating the capacity for the other person to experience themselves more deeply. This allows the other person to call upon their inner capacity of support and nurture without taking away their sovereignty.

For more on Giving and Receiving: https://www.windowstotheheart.net/making-space-in-your-life-for-self-care/

When you resonate with being more at home within your own body, this creates the potential for feeling at home in new situations and places, and on the planet. This is because you take your home with you, and experiencing others with their own sovereignty allows you to feel more at peace within. Earth Element has a lot to give and teach us about nurture and support.

I’d like to invite you to receive monthly wellness and well-being healing modalities and information about repatterning events from Windows to the Heart Repatterning.

Sign up for monthly newsletter here: Newsletter and Exclusive Re-pattern Your Life Events

*Resonance Repatterning® acknowledges the work of Magui Block who brought Bert Hellinger’s Family Systems process to this body of work.

Read More

Posted by Kimberly Rex

Harvesting Summer: Gratitude and Appreciation are Part of the Recipe

Read More

Posted by Kimberly Rex

Harmonizing the Heart and Home of Your Body-Mind System

The Chinese Five Element and Meridian System acknowledges the relationship within your body-mind system. This includes the layers of interacting emotions, mental attitudes, and quality of life energy available based on the quality of these interactions.

This means that during the summer when the sun, the major solar fire source for the Earth is prominent, the Fire Element, the heart and home of the Emperor in Chinese Medicine of your body-mind system relies on the other elements in your system, and how you interact with all the other parts of your body-mind system.. This is related to your heart, your connection with others, level of life energy, and the value you give to your experiences. All of these factors affect how you use your energy each day of your life.

Inner World

Fire Element plays a prominent role in all the other element’s attributes based on the balanced flow of energy between all within the larger body-mind system. In this article, we will explore two primary relationships with Fire Element: Wood Element that directly nourishes Fire Element and Water Element that limits Fire Element to create a greater balance between your organ and meridian system.

An imbalance between these elements can show up with persistently becoming agitated or depressed. This would be related to your Wood-Fire Element relationship. You might also become resentful and withdrawn in your relationships, feeling stuck, and victimized. The impact might be an overall sense of sadness, lack of energy, or an increase of feeling emotionally flooded. This would indicate a Fire and Water imbalance.

Time

For this purpose, let’s talk about two primary relationships with Fire Element that affect expansive and limiting qualities. The sun is your major connection to your body-mind system. You need Vitamin D3 from the sun for heart health. Yet, the amount of time you spend in the sun is important to get a daily dose within the boundaries of what is healthy for you.

If you have ever built a fire, you know that wood feeds the fire. In the Chinese Medicine System, Wood nourishes Fire Element. Wood Element deals with your liver and gall bladder/ Processing toxins and fats are primary roles. And, it is important to look at harmonizing your system for the emotional and mental impact of stress on your heart based on this relationship. The Wood Element influences how you see the world as it is associated with your vision.

This depends on your resonance with Wood Element’s coherent qualities of seeing the world through the lens of hope and optimism, or, Wood Element’s non-coherent qualities of toxic anger and depression. This impacts the energy you have for new projects, how much or how little you wish to be connected with others, and how you discern or set boundaries with your own life energy and your own time.

Fire Element is essential to set boundaries in a loving way. This resonance is different than cutting yourself off from another person or cutting yourself off from nourishing care for self.

When you resonate with setting boundaries in a loving way, it is essential to realize that this extends in both directions. Loving boundaries for you and the other person. There is a large spectrum in practicing this skill and to the extent, you need to set boundaries based on your own energy level and energy exchange with the other person or situation. In some cases, it is simply taking a brief pause with another person. In other cases, it can mean that you need to look at your inner needs in setting boundaries by prioritizing what is most needed. It might also need that you need to delegate some responsibilities or look at places where you feel long-standing issues have dealt a blow to your self-esteem or disrupted your sense of direction.

Self-regulation is a balance between fire, water, and wood. Inspiration over time, using your time wisely, and making space for self-care all contribute to greater harmony and balance within so that you are better able to take part in life in ways that create nourishment from joy, love, and connection.

Space

There are different ways to set boundaries. It is sometimes beneficial to expand your boundaries while at the same time pacing yourself with self-care in mind. For this purpose, let’s talk about the primary role of Water Element on Fire Element.

Back to the analogy of building a fire, think about the result of dumping water on a flame. If there is too much fire, you need water to regulate the flame. While a wildfire would require more water, and a small fire less water, the internal emotional response for using water as a remedy could be a result of caution, need for calm, resentment, or fear.

Too much fear-based on resentment or feeling victimized seriously limits your ability to experience love, joy, and connection. Water Element’s coherent aspect though is a remedy for creating greater balance through resonating with your need to go with the flow instead of being in the fight-flight or freeze mode. The Water Element affects your hearing, and how you listen to others, essential for a relationship, feeling understood, and communication.

In this case, non-coherent Wood Element would show up as emotional flooding without the ability to set boundaries with self and others based on the disconnect from Earth Element nurture and support. Look at any body of water, and you will see Earth Element creating boundaries on shores and banks. When there are no boundaries, space on land is invaded and made unlivable. On the other hand, when water is frozen, there is an inability to move or take action. In this case, it is difficult to resonate with hope or possibility. Lastly, when Water Element has no capacity for adaptability, perseverance, or ability to contain energy reserves, this leads to exhaustion.

The importance of Water Element’s role in the Chinese Five Element System points to the power of resilience through making space. Water carves canyons over time and creates space in moving with the flow in streams, rivers, and oceans. Water needs movement to be able to sustain life. This very movement is what makes it possible for all life and ecosystems to thrive.

Wellness and well-being thrive when there is communication between all of the five elements physically, emotionally, mentally and life/spirit purpose levels. This is your invitation to take part in harmonizing you Fire Element. Resonance Repatterning® works with your capacity to do just this based on how much energy you dedicate to different aspects of your life. Take part in a virtual group repatterning session or experience a personal repatterning session to create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

Here is an opportunity to receive monthly healing modalities and repatterning events from Windows to the Heart Repatterning to create greater harmony and balance in your life.

Sign up for monthly newsletter here: Newsletter and Exclusive Re-pattern Your Life Events

Read More