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What Keeps You Separated from Love?

What Keeps You Separated from Love? That’s the question. Connecting to love creates life-enhancing benefits for your health, wellness, and well-being. Love is essential from the beginning of your life affecting how you perceive yourself, others, and the world. In places where you feel disconnected, the journey of reconnection can be resolving fear, anger, and shame.

1. Fear Keeps You Separated from Love

From the start of your life, you rely on bonding, safety, and trust to get your needs met by your mother and caretakers. The nurture between mother and child promotes oxytocin hormone, the long-term bonding neurotransmitter that creates an overall sense of wellness and well-being for nurture, safe connection as well as an exploration of the world. Unresolved bonding-separation stress can create tension and fear that result in long-term insecure, anxious, or avoidant behaviors. These behaviors create repetitive life-depleting relationship patterns that leave you feeling stuck or frozen in life. Fear keeps you from taking love within yourself and in your relationships with others.

Changing your response to stressful experiences that trigger you is possible today to release past trauma that constricts your life energy. This allows your body-mind-spirit system to restore more calm and peace to learn how to retrain your responses to life to experience love.

2. Anger Keeps You Separated from Love

The frustration that can arise from not having your needs for love, belonging, connection, and nurture met can create what feels like gaping holes in your being. However, this anger and frustration can also point you to the doorway to resolve the past while creating the potential for meeting these unmet needs in the present.

Anger narrows your vision of what is happening in front of you. Your survival and emotional brains (unconscious processing) will look for confirmation of behaviors, traits, and patterns that trigger reenactment in order to resolve earlier traumatic experiences or keep you in fight or flight mode.

3. Shame from the Past Keeps You Separated from Love

Shame separates you from love through seeing yourself as only a person with flaws or imperfections. This can be a sense of disconnect from life through your culture’s or family’s rules. It can be led by guilt related to times where you reacted out of fear or anger. It can keep you from knowing or experiencing life beyond forgiveness for the parts of your life that have been excluded or hurt. Shame can separate you from other parts of your being and life itself through misunderstanding or not knowing how to get your basic needs for love acknowledged in an inclusive, respectful, energizing, safe, and trustworthy way.

“Love yourself-accept yourself-forgive yourself-and be good to yourself because without you the rest of us are without the source of many wonderful things.”~Leo Buscaglia

When you are able to see yourself with respect and regard for all of your life’s experiences, the good you bring to life along with the “mistakes” your mind believes you made along the way this is possible. Looking through the lens of living your life as a spiritual journey in the classroom of life, you are better able to consider new experiences, connections, and diverse points of view by seeing the bigger picture for new possibilities.

Relationships teach us about ourselves. We attract and experience connection with other people in a variety of ways~all of them opportunities for growth and transformation. Conflict shows up in the midst of issues related to the need for power and control, closeness and care, respect and recognition. The issues that show up in your adult relationships relate back to your first connections and how the needs for safety, trust, bonding, and exploration were interrupted or blocked. These unmet needs created longing, loss, and interference with self-expression.

Whether it be the relationship you have with an intimate partner, a friend, a coworker or someone who lives in your neighborhood, all of these interactions are opportunities to work with the material that has kept you bound or separate from loving yourself more fully. Each person is a teacher and can be a mirror of light into a deeper recognition of something inside that matches the need for understanding, love, and compassion.

There is no other than a different version of yourself. ~Esther Perel

Wherever you are today, isolated, sad, frustrated, or exhausted, it is time to know that your Greater Self is able to take the higher lessons from your awareness of what you have experienced. By moving from conflict to empathy the pathway to love is energized so that you can take what benefits your growth, self-expression, and needs for self-care.

Through working with your experiences from relationships through time, you can begin to realize that these parts and their voices contribute to expanding your awareness of your Greater Self so that you are able to give comfort, calm, and truth to your inner world so that you resonate with a greater spectrum of experiences in your relationships.

Resolving the inner life-depleting patterns that keep you from love creates the capacity to create a new way of interacting with others. Instead of making your relationship carry the burden of your earlier experiences, you create a new template for self-care with greater integrity, joy, and love. This is expressed in your communication and choices, as this enhances your ability to bond in healthy ways that are life-enhancing for you and reflected back in others.

It is possible to work with earlier experiences related to attachment with Resonance Repattenring®sessions to transform and update the unconscious material related to-verbal trauma still stored in your survival and emotional brain today as these aspects of memory are stored so that the relevance of your experience today that respond in the same way through the fight, flight or freeze behaviors.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, by phone, in-person, and by proxy.

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Resonating with Making Valuable Decisions and Choices

In Resonance Repatterning® sessions, clients work with places in their lives where energy has been interrupted, or blocked.  Sessions can benefit decision-making by resolving inner conflict or tension related to the internal process to help clients with resonating with making valuable choices that create new perspectives and life-enhancing energy in the process.

The Decision-Making Repatterning works with creating more positive coherence for the decision-making process. Difficulties in making decisions can come from many sources, and this difficulty may, in fact, originate as early as your birth process. In the natural process of child-birth, the baby initiates movement during the birth process. In some cases, a C-section, the use of forceps, delayed pushing or induced birth, can interrupt the developmental phases of the birth journey and affect lifetime processes for decision-making.~Chloe Faith Wordsworth, Founder of Resonance Repatterning®  This can lead to feeling frozen, indecisive, and create avoidance that impacts relationships, business and inability to make choices that lead you towards your goals and positive intentions.

Although the Resonance Repatterning® process assists with enhancing the decision-making process, it does not check for the correctness or the best decision. The muscle-checking process works with your current resonance which draws information from your body-mind system in a way to check for information from your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, perceptions, and responses. The purpose of a session is to expand possibilities, update information within, and create greater coherence for harmony and balance in the decision-making process to offer you many more choices and possibilities than you might experience at the moment.

Resonating with choice in your current situation is directly related to earlier experiences in your life. Where there has been a sense of betrayal, an unmet life need that affected your ability to orient yourself to what is life-enhancing and supportive to you, or tension that created inner conflict taken in due to experiences that led to an inability to discern how to approach or resolve internal conflict. This could have been modeled through parental conflict styles or avoidance of conflict altogether.

This repatterning creates safety, respect for self and others, and internal dialogue to identify internal and external resources for informed and coherent choices in the present. By updating your need for the resolution of earlier conflict, and allowing you to go through the decision-making process in the present, your body-mind system then works with consciousness science and natural healing modalities to transform your resonance with limitation so you are in sync with coherent timing, attitude and response to change in an interactive process that allows you to consider your needs and the big picture of your decision with its impact on your life, others, and your life vision.

The Mandorla Conflict Repatterning works with inner conflict related to decision-making. Decision-making can sometimes seem like either/or, and right or wrong choices. This creates internal tension. Not all decisions fall into this category, however, and this can make some decisions even more stressful. The TED Talk below delivered by Ruth Chang speaks to shifting perspectives about decision-making based on your inner values and quality of life in the midst of making hard choices.

A mandorla is an almond. Imagine two circles overlapping like a Venn Diagram. One side represents one side of the conflict, while the other side represents the other side of the conflict. Where the two overlap, is a new possibility, and is the answer to both sides of the conflict. It transcends the polarity of either. In the Mandorla Conflict Repatterning, the process works by integrating the seeming contradictions presented in hard decisions, that place where both sides of the coin offer something that feels important to consider.

Giving yourself the time and space to support to orient yourself in a life-enhancing direction is well worth the journey. The process in this repatterning works with uncovering the resistance within yourself, to create a kind of synthesis of insight from both views leading to a new viewpoint informed by both potentials creating something more than either view separately.

Through the process, a blueprint for looking at underlying feelings of resistance that stop the process from being more supportive, perceptive, or discerning is included. It works with your self-talk and non-coherence within your body-mind system through your survival, emotional, and reasoning brain. Because the decision-making process is directly interwoven with how you perceive the world through your thoughts, beliefs and vision of life, this repatterning also works with your resonance with absorbing light, your ability to move fully into the world with an intact experience of self, and with creating a memory for the feeling that will orient you towards that which is life-enhancing. The process builds in positive action and natural modalities to create harmonizing coherence, inner direction, and positive action.

Facing a hard choice or decision-making process?  Find out how Resonance Repatterning® sessions will benefit you in your process as a powerful tool for positive change with a personal session with Kimberly Rex, MS.

Kimberly Rex, MS is an experienced and certified Advanced Resonance Repatterning, Master Life Coach, and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist with advanced training in holistic and healing therapies. She works with clients all over the world by phone, Skype, proxy, and in-person with cutting-edge energy medicine and transformation processes to re-pattern your life so you can change your story and your life to experience greater integrity in your wellness and well-being with more life energy for your positive intentions.  Contact her at kimberly@windowstotheheart.net to schedule your personal session for positive change.

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