Posted by Kimberly Rex
Circling Back to Move Forward
At times it can feel like you are circling back to an earlier part of your life. This can be both beneficial when you wish to gain insight, experience a fond memory, or unveil a new realization. But, in some cases, unconscious unresolved conflict or trauma from the past imposes itself upon the big screen of your life over and over again, it can create the sense that you have little choice or control. The good news is that you are wired for success and self-healing. You can use circling back to move forward as a springboard to spiral up to a new potential for creating new patterns in your life today.
Circling Back to Move Forward is Part of Life Itself
All of the universe operates in circles and spirals. From the microorganisms, plant, animal, and human expressions, life shows up in cycles of renewing, sustaining, and releasing as a way to preserve the evolving components and foundations of existence and build upon them.
This shows up also in adaptations over time that allow life to sustain and thrive in new and varying conditions. The Earth and all living beings need to adapt to these changes perceived in the environment in the short term and over time to survive.
As, humans, we go through daily, monthly and seasonal circles of changes. We are affected by the hours of daylight, temperature, and available natural resources that we take in and are surrounded by. In an ever-changing world, it is valuable to give yourself permission to adapt and change that adaptation when that adaptation is no longer needed. In the fall, we harvest and gather for the coming cold months and put on sweaters and warm coats. However, We take off layers of clothing in the summer and plant new gardens.
Circling Back to Move Forward on the Emotional, Mental, and Physical Levels
In a world where your physical environment changes, it is essential to give yourself permission to also change when to wear a lighter or different coat as you adapt to new environments in your personal life as well.
When your unconscious material carries your past story with limiting beliefs about yourself, relationships, finances, and the world no longer works or fits, you benefit from the realization that the adaptation from the past is no longer useful in your new and current reality.
This applies to your limiting thoughts, attitudes, and feelings from that adaptation recorded within your body-mind-spirit system. When you circle back to access the body’s memory, thoughts, and feelings related to the experience. Hypervigilance over perceived threat responses stored from the past when there is no danger in your present takes you out of inhabiting life fully.
The potential for inhabiting your body by working with the feedback and sensations from your body memory allows you to transform and contain the experiences from the past so you can experience a more relaxed connection to yourself. This can begin to happen by releasing the tension of the immobilized energy that is signaled by unconscious material that creates stressful reactions that put you in fight, flight, freeze, or collapse mode through the Sympathetic Nervous System response.
When you are living from the perspective of unresolved over-adapted trauma response from the past, you respond to the world from a hypervigilant state. This changes your breathing, heartbeat, and your body processes including your vision. You are less able to see details, focus, and discern what is happening right now. You are disconnected from your ability to make conscious choices with your pre-frontal cortex as you are disconnected from reason, decision-making, and critical thinking. Because you are experiencing emotional and survival responses that affect your choices over time through repetitive patterns based on short-term solutions, this continues to control your view of life.
As Peter Levine, Ph.D. demonstrates in the video, by relaxing your muscles with compassionate dialogue and intention, you begin to pair the Parasympathetic Nervous System response to an alternative for your body-mind system over the habitual response. This means that you can then begin to deeply listen to the messages from your body from your Sympathetic Nervous System reactions so you can experience the resolution of the body memory and the narrative that has kept you in over-adapted mode from the past making new adaptations paired with the Parasympathetic Nervous System.
Relaxation of your body impacts your mind. You are better able to breathe in a relaxed and full way. You regain your connection to your whole brain and motor function. This creates greater coherence and resilience in that it is what makes it possible to literally feel like the trauma is contained and over in the present. Some examples of self-care relaxation and breathing practices you might explore over time are available in Yoga and movements like Tai Chi.
Sometimes it is important to question your mind about your current situation. “Is it true?”
For example, when you notice that your shoulders are tight, you can ask what is going on. Do you feel safe right now? How stressed are you? If not, does the situation you are in, or a recent event/conversation bring something up that reminds you of a past experience that was stressful? Are you in danger right now? Or, is your body-mind ramping this up because of a trigger word, sound, or visual? Is this word, sound, or visual dangerous to you right now? Can it hurt you right now? At the same time, you can thank your shoulders for this information, and start to relax them in whatever way feels most needed. Notice any other parts of your body that might be holding stress. Relax them also. By doing so, you are practicing self-care and expanding the ability of your body-mind-spirit system to live in the world today instead of the past and empower your ability to distinguish what is real and true for you now.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl
By practicing new responses you can create new realizations to spiral up into new possibilities by updating your awareness of the world you live in today. Learning to be more fully engaged in your life today with a new and different set of factors with your own positive changes and actions over time is a powerful tool for self-regulation, self-compassion, and resilience wherever life leads you.
This is your invitation to circle back to move forward with Resonance Repatterning.® Sessions work directly with your Nervous System connected to every tissue, organ, and gland in your body-mind system. Your body is a map of your life’s experiences, and through Resonance muscle-checking can access where your life energy is stuck, frozen, or disrupted. The process works with the limiting thoughts, feelings, and beliefs stored within the material of early experiences that created conflict, trauma, or unresolved immobilized energy in your nervous system. Each session is specific to what you need to support creating greater awareness and coherence personally, in relationships, and in the world. This is the beauty of this multi-discipline and natural multi-modality work.
Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, phone, and proxy. Set up your personal session here.
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Remembering to Breathe on the Emotional Roller Coaster
At times like these remembering to breathe is important! This past year had some powerful emotional content. We’ve gone through earth shifts and political trauma. If it’s felt like an emotional roller coaster, you are not alone! These events have maximized and mobilized response on many levels including personal feelings of grief, disbelief, anger, confusion, frustration, shock, and/or fear. It has felt as if time has tumbled over itself in trying to get us to process personal feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.
Breathing patterns give clues to emotions and feelings. You can measure a shift in breathing when you are excited, as well as when you are worried. Trauma, shock, disease, or pain interrupts the natural flow of your breath and vitality. When we get stuck in a breathing pattern even when the reason for an earlier experience is no longer present, it’s a clue that feelings have not been released. Processing feelings with the support of breath helps to move through these experiences to resolution.
The quality of your breathing patterns affects the flow of oxygen and carbon dioxide exchange essential to life activity in the body down to the cellular level, impacts the emotional brain, synchronizes brain waves, and controls your mental state. When you are frightened, you gasp or hold your breath. When you are stressed or worried, you sigh, have a shallow or collapsed breathing pattern after the exhale, or have a blocked inhale. Exhaling to release or inhaling to start a new breath cycle pattern is the goal.
Remembering to Breathe
Following are two breathing exercises to support the release of feelings, and the creation of new images for greater relaxation and harmony. You can practice them together or use each one on its own.
1. Feeling Breath
- Get in touch with your breathing pattern. *Inhale through your nose. Each time you inhale, breathe in pure energy allowing your stomach to expand like a balloon, including your ribs front to back and side to side. Fill your lungs. As you exhale through your nose, relax your lungs and ribs from the top and middle. Pull in your abdominal muscles, exhaling all the air from the bottom of your lungs. Do this a few times.
- Become aware of what you are feeling. Continuing to breathe deeply and easily as you accept these feelings as messengers for processing material for insight, illumination, and resolution.
- When you are aware of what you are feeling, say what you are feeling out loud as you continue to breathe deeply and easily.
- When you have acknowledged your feelings out loud, continue to relax while releasing the named feeling when you exhale. You can say, “I release my feeling of__________” as you breathe out.
- You can breathe out emotional and physical toxins with this process also. Continue breathing with a focus on inhaling pure energy and exhaling emotions until you feel complete.
This nurturing relationship with the ocean of air you are breathing creates chi or prana to feed every cell of your body. When your breathing patterns are in balance and harmony, the benefits range from decreasing adrenaline flow when in a stressful situation, improving the quality of your vitality, better sleep, lowering your blood pressure, and greater heart health. Giving attention to your breath gets you in touch with your center or spiritual core, allows you to let go of emotional and physical toxins, and improves your sense of connection to your feelings, relaxation, and heart wisdom.
2. Limbic Brain Breath: Because breathing accesses the emotional brain, doing this modality will give you energetic support for creating new images and feelings. While breathing deeply, see positive image(s) and feel positive feeling(s). Use this visualization to support you in a stressful situation, when you need grounding or need an energetic pick-me-up!
There are many powerful breathing patterns that can heal your life. Here are two great books to explore: Free Your Breath, Free Your Life by Dennis Lewis Free Your Breath, Free Your Life: How Conscious Breathing Can Relieve Stress, Increase Vitality, and Help You Live More Fully
and Breathing Free: the 5-day breathing program that will change your life by Teresa Hale
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Kimberly Rex, MS gives Resonance Repatterning® sessions by phone, Skype, proxy, and in-person for people of all ages. She works with clients to dissolve the impact of Earlier Experiences, and to allow positive change. Resonance Repatterning sessions address breathing patterns that have resulted from trauma and emotional stress. Contact Kimberly at kimberly@windowstotheheart.net for a session that will create positive change in your life!
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