Posted by Kimberly Rex
Letting Go of Old Tapes
Letting go is a theme in nature, especially in fall. It’s an invitation to do the same with what no longer serves your growth and transformation. Old tapes are those negative limiting beliefs, attitudes, and thoughts that keep you in habitual stress responses with life-depleting patterns that keep you in similar scenarios, relationships, and outcomes. These old tape tracks are well-worn and imprinted in your life.
Old tapes like old songs generate a sense of the past. The problem is that playing old tapes without choice or introduction to any other option keeps you carrying the frequency of these tapes into your life. This impacts how you see the world around you.
Acknowledging the Source of Old Tapes that Keep You Stuck
Acknowledgment starts with the realization that most of these beliefs originate from times in your life when your needs for survival and response to life were experienced through the lens of emotions early in life. Whether they originated from family rules, acculturation, school, or unresolved trauma or loss, they created neural pathways reinforced over and over again as you moved through life attempting to get your basic needs met while monitoring and protecting the parts of yourself that learned these basic survival skills.
Because these old tapes are habituated into an automatic response or reaction menus, your unconscious brain response today defaults to the beliefs, thoughts, and responses to earlier experiences when presented with similar material. Your body-mind system is designed to avoid danger and to look for negative threats. Your Autonomic Nervous System creates your sensory-motor and influences your behavioral responses.
With the number of stimuli that bombard your system in every moment, culling through all of the signals present in the world around you gives the edge to this unconscious material to take care of your well-being.
Identifying Old Tapes that Keep You From Living Your Life More Fully
In fact, old tapes that keep playing today might actually be an introjected emotion, thought, or family rule that was present in your early life while you were immersed in the environment of stress experienced by a parent or caretaker. Even the stress of prenatal experience can influence your way of looking at the world today.
Identifying where activated alert, fight, flight, and immobilization responses from unresolved physical, emotional, and mental needs for survival is key to opening doorways to positive change. In trauma research, the residue of old tapes shows up in intrusive thoughts, hyper-arousal, and avoidance. Unresolved nervous system material shows up physiologically in sleep issues, nightmares, illness, changes in digestion, heart rate, hormone levels, and hyper-arousal. They show up mentally and emotionally in hyper-vigilance, anxiety, panic attacks, irritation, violent thoughts or actions, reliving or experiencing the initial pain and depression,
They show up behaviorally or socially in fawning/flocking with an excessive need to please others, submission by giving in to others, or defense to bring the attention of others through excessive crying. These tapes also contribute to compensating for pain through addiction, numbing or hiding out as a result of not being able to discern danger from life-enhancing choices. These behaviors point to the need to create a successful outcome or resolution from traumatic earlier experiences.
So it’s important to identify the actual old tapes that keep showing up and to get a sense of their source. Your beliefs about life, relationships, men, women, self, work, different groups, etc. impact how you face the world, and the quality of life energy you have to dedicate to your positive intentions for your life today.
These old tapes are played over and over within beliefs with an inventory of repetitive experiences in your life that play out in remarkably similar ways. You might even catch yourself looking at the world in negative ways with things you say out loud, how you move toward or away from others or situations, or within repetitive emotional, mental, or physical states that point to your reactions to life.
Transforming Old Tapes into New Possibilities
Resonance Repatterning® works with your inner technology to access information stored in your body-mind system at the unconscious level to bring life-depleting old tapes to the surface to identify and transform. This happens with a resonance muscle-checking system that connects to your Nervous System. Your Nervous System is connected to every organ, tissue, and gland in your body. This means that it is possible to work with prenatal, family, and activated unresolved traumatic experiences where patterns have been held. These patterns and old tapes keep playing as they get lived out in your relationships, your health, and your sense of well-being.
The process creates coherent release and updated options for your system to transform this information for more optimal functioning to create greater harmony and balance in your body-mind system. This happens with natural modalities of color, light, sound, movement, breath, energetic contact, fragrance, and consciousness science paired with your specific needs.
Sessions create greater relaxation, peace of mind, ability to connect to playfulness, love, joy, and stillness. By doing so, you are better able to experience more of what you choose to create in your life on the physical, emotional, mental, and spirit levels. You reclaim your authority (authorship) with greater life energy to dedicate your positive intentions. Your life-enhancing choices then create more conscious pathways that allow you to experience new possibilities for greater growth and transformation that are aligned with your vision of life.
Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, phone, and proxy.
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Moving from Resistance to Resilience
Moving from resistance to resilience means moving from struggle to effortless flow. What does this mean? This internal awareness acknowledges the natural process of presence and change that can nourish you in ways that allow you to be in the natural flow without as much struggle.
From Resistance to Resilience with Your Time
“Doing nothing everything is accomplished.”~Lao Tzu
You have schedules, deadlines, and plans that are important to you to complete. Lao Tzu’s wisdom does not refer to your daily calendar as much as it does the natural state of allowing the process to be calmer, centered, and energizing. Instead of struggle and resistance, the ability to get into the flow of natural energy creates greater resilience. Doing nothing is perceived as a lack of progress or ability to make things happen. However, it is how you spend your time and energy that makes all the difference for the integrity of your wellness and well-being. While positive resistance is beneficial for timing in regards to balancing self-care with outward action, too much or too little resistance are indicators of struggle that do not empower resilience.
In the natural world, what looks like nothing is happening is actually engaged in a process of change aligned with harmony and balance. It is exactly for this reason that the natural world engages in co-creation within and around it to create greater sustenance, resilience, and remarkable rejuvenation.
The cycle of struggle and resistance to change within to make things happen can waste your time, energy, and effort. This happens when your body-mind system becomes stuck or overwhelmed in life-depleting habits or behaviors that fuel resistance through anxiety, worry, fear, anger, or depression. This, in turn, can lead to exhaustion and depletion. Struggle can distance you from the natural course and potential for how you best get to use your time.
The natural world creates positive change to nurture the whole in cycles of sustaining life with active and rest cycles even in changing conditions. You can observe this as letting go, dormancy, renewal, flowering, and harvest. Even when there is seeming latency in winter, the natural world is working in timely ways with the environment it is presented.
From Resistance to Resilience with Your Energy
Energy and homeostasis are related. By being in sync with stillness it is possible to access life-enhancing energy. In the same way, you breathe in to create energy for your body-mind system, that energy is utilized to sustain your life, while you then let go of what is not needed to allow the process of breath to continue to nourish you further in the next cycle.
Non-doing and mindfulness is the process of transforming resistance to resilience within. This applies to your thoughts and feelings. The process begins by acknowledging what is actually happening. What you are feeling and thinking are whatever they are. This is your experience in the moment.
Like a current weather bulletin, this gives you feedback as to what is happening inside your body. With this awareness, you can access where you are in the world. Are you in struggle or are you able to open a natural window to observe what is happening to create greater possibility and transformation? Opening the natural window allows you to make space and time to turn over and nourish your inner material to create life-enhancing options.
So what if you gave yourself some time, say, 10 minutes, to process your inner thoughts and feelings when you feel the resistance taking over as a way to create access to an effortless channel of being, doing, and living with purpose. This mindfulness activity actually increases your ability to use your time more productively.
From Resistance to Resilience with Your Effort
When you create greater space and time you are better able to become more centered. By doing so you are better able to start, sustain, or let go of what is most needed to reestablish harmony and balance.
Know your purpose. Become aware of your purpose in the moment. Is your purpose to write an article, study for an exam, become more financially independent? You can move out of the effort in keeping the resistance cycle in place with acceptance, gratitude, or forgiveness. This allows the resistance amplified by anxiety, fear, anger, grief, or negative judgment to de-escalate. It also makes it possible to begin again with the ability to problem-solve to choose the next steps aligned with your values.
This letting go or surrender can shift your perception from regret, self-doubt, blame, and struggle. Have you ever noticed when you are talking to someone, and you want to share a piece of information or remember something how interference of any kind throws you off track? Where was I? I notice that if I stop and wait, the information becomes more available. It involves allowing. If you are aligned with purpose you will remember.
Remember who you are and know what you do. The window to effortless non-doing comes when you are aligned with your purpose. Asking yourself the question, “What is my purpose?” is a way to remember. In the same way, you are better able to stay in touch with what is going on in the world around you so you can navigate challenging situations with more freedom and choice.
“Do in line with what your purpose is.” ~Shoma Morita ( Japanese psychologist)
In letting go of resistance, your vision becomes broad and clear so you are better able to see what is beneficial for your life and purpose. Align with what your purpose is and move in a life-enhancing direction with this in mind.
This is your personal invitation to explore or take part in a personal session designed for moving from resistance to resilience here. By doing so you move beyond the struggle and resistance so you can experience greater freedom and choice aligned with your life purpose.
Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, by phone, and by proxy.
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The Impact of Chronic Stress
The impact of chronic stress has both short-term and long-term effects on your body-mind system. When stressful cycles do not resolve or get released, your body-mind system continues to store the pain from the stress within the map of your body. Your body-mind system needs natural ways to support recovery in creating greater calm and restoration.
Stress Response and Hypothalamus-Pituitary-Adrenal Axis
Hypothalamus-Pituitary-Adrenal Axis
Adrenal Stress originates with messages from your hypothalamus to your pituitary gland that release hormones to react to perceived danger and threats that then stimulate your adrenal glands to secrete cortisol.
Stress cycles have an impact on memory retention, focus, mood, and health. The Hypothalamus-Pituitary-Adrenal Axis (HPA) process. The hypothalamus releases hormones that signal the autonomic nervous system to control body temperature, thirst, hunger, metabolic, and autonomic functions. It works with the pituitary gland through endocrine responses to signal the adrenal glands. This response also connects with limbic system (emotional brain) structures including the amygdala, hippocampus, thalamus, and olfactory cortex. These connections enable the hypothalamus to influence emotional responses to sensory input.
The hypothalamus sends out chemical messengers to the entire body. It controls the autonomic nervous system and is the bridge between the body and the brain. The hormonal signals from the pituitary gland to the adrenal glands create the release of adrenaline and cortisol.
Adrenaline and cortisol hormones direct energy to respond to perceived life-threatening situations. Adrenaline messages the liver and tissue to release glucose (sugar) that is needed to either fight or run away. These hormones increase blood supply in the heart and lungs in order to supply oxygen and blood to your muscles.
When this happens your energy is directed away from digestion to conserve energy. Cortisol production ramps up to stop your pancreas from secreting insulin to utilize glucose in the bloodstream. This severely diminishes or eliminates the availability of amino acids related to optimal cellular function. In addition, this shift in energy limits thyroid hormones, to complete natural digestion, metabolism, and detoxification processes.
When cortisol is present, this leads to the production of the anti-stress hormone, DHEA to calm your system after a threat. However, the constant need for DHEA can lead to the suppression of your body’s immune response from cortisol overload. Perpetual stress without intervention or relief creates imbalance and disharmony within your body-mind system. This in turn diminishes the ability of your body to deal with bacteria, viruses, candida, or parasitic infection. Long-term stress cycle effects can show up in muscle loss, arthritis, diabetes, chronic fatigue, allergies, PMS, craving for sweets or salty foods, autoimmune disease, immune suppression, and at the far end of the spectrum, cancer.
In order to treat the effects of this past year of stress, this is your personal invitation to nourish your body-mind-spirit system to create greater wellness and well-being. In the process, you can learn new stress avoidance behaviors and actions to replace, restore and create new opportunities for greater ease, resilience, and connection to yourself and others in life-enhancing ways.
Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world via Skype, by phone, and by proxy.
Find out how Resonance Repatterning benefits your life. Set up a personal session or sign up for a free monthly newsletter with articles, natural healing modalities, and exclusive group sessions here.
Research for this article came from Resonance Repatterning, Scalar Heart Connection, and Healing Trauma training material as well as Wikipedia sources.
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Three Meditations to Stay Calm and Carry On
With all that there is to process in the world today, here are 3 meditations that will create greater calm so you can carry on. it is important not to lose sight of the fact that what is happening inside of you is key to your experience of any challenge. Your body is your home 24/7. By taking care of your stress levels and your thoughts and beliefs that influence the barometer of where you are in the stress cycle, you are better able to regulate what you have control over within and in your immediate environment.
The following three beneficial modalities will allow you to create a greater sense of calm so that you can reconnect to your center, your still point. And, if you will, the zero point or closer to neutral so you can experience greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.
1. Letting Go of Resistance to Stay Calm and Carry On
This doesn’t mean giving up. It means choosing where you put your attention. This meditation will create the opportunity to work with your emotions, especially when you feel stuck or spiraling up into greater tension, frustration, and fear. Letting go of the suffering created by losing your ability to see, move, or rest will allow you to breathe, connect to the present, and tap into what you’d like to do and where you would like to go with greater problem-solving abilities and potential for new perspectives with this meditation audio download.
2. A Pause for Centering to Stay Calm and Carry On
This meditation is beneficial for your immune system and also entrains the organ systems of your body for greater calm and communication within. As you practice this brief meditation, tuning into your heart will also allow the Barr System to create greater coherence in your pre-frontal cortex. This supports entrainment in your brain for the overall functioning ability to problem-solve. As a bonus, this meditation practice also enhances your immune system.
This meditation can be used to enrich communication with others as well. And, finally, you can use this practice before any activity or when you are in transition between appointments, classes, or meetings. Use the meditation audio download.
3. Sea of Tranquility Meditation with Breath Modality
Get in touch with your breath. While taking even breaths for your inhale and exhale, you can massage the center of your chest known as CV17 to relieve anxiety and panic attacks. This point can be found by drawing an imaginary line from the crease of your armpit to the center of your chest. You can apply pressure with your fingers or place your hand in a prayer position with fingers pointing up and your elbows out to the side. Allow them to rise slightly along with your head on the inhale, and return back to a neutral position with your exhale. Exhale slowly through your mouth and let your belly contract as you do this. This will allow your mind and heart rate to move into a more relaxed state.
Stay with this breathing meditation for 2-3 minutes. Practice this a few times a day to bring greater harmony to your body-mind system. This will benefit you when you are anxious, depressed, or need to recover from emotional or physical injury with this audio download.
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Kimberly Rex, MS is a Master Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Master Wellness and Well-being Life Coach, and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist. She works with people all over the world by phone, Skype, and proxy.
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Opening Pandora’s Box to Find Hope
Opening Pandora’s Box can be a metaphor of caution for being curious or looking at what is difficult or negative. It is also a metaphor for finding hope. At this time in your personal life as well as in the collective, there is an opportunity, to look within at what has been denied, hidden, or kept secret to protect and manage your life,
from Wikipedia.org
The image of Pandora has continually come up recently as an analogy for what is happening. I have always thought that when Pandora’s curiosity caused her to open the box, it only contained negative energy. However, with a closer study of the story, it’s vital to know that hope, the one positive energy inside was also included in the container.
She also found hope after all the negative energy had been released with her courage to open the box once more. It was only to appear after the disorder was seen and examined. That hope is what makes it possible to continue forward and spiral up with the power of the point of choice through the chaos and overwhelm.
We all have our own storage box like Pandora. Inside are both painful and comforting memories. The question to ask yourself is how much space you have for hope. By working with the difficult material that has kept you separated from resonating with new possibilities, you are better able to create space for more harmony and balance in your body-mind system.
How Family Systems Offers Hope
Resonance Repatterning ® works with identifying unconscious non-coherent patterns within your body-mind-spirit system. In the process of a session, where energy is constricted or interrupted by trauma, loss, grief, or pain, natural energizing modalities bring hope to restore greater integrity in your system overall. This is done by muscle-checking for the best order and beneficial disciplines tailored to you to create greater coherence.
One of these disciplines is the process of Family Systems created by Bert Hellinger.* Opening the box of unconscious generational patterns creates a meaningful and beneficial way to rebuild hope and positive change in your life.
The Ability to Take Information So You Can Do Something Good with It
In a Family Systems session, you might hear of the importance of taking your mother or father or taking the information in your system. By making material conscious you are better able to work with it and transform its impact on your life.
This holds true with all your relationships. Taking means you are able to see all that is present. This is related to the acceptance of another person as they are or were in your past. Being able to tell the difference between what is real and what is not real is essential or possible in any relationship. Taking the information allows you to gain the energy to face life with what it is handing you.
When you are not facing life, this means that your body-mind system is more tied up in the past conflict or situation, and unable to experience the vitality and freedom to be present to what is in front of you today.
Create Order in Your System
Creating order in your system refers to the ability to resonate with being in your rightful place in your system. This could mean as a child to your parents instead of resonating with being your parent’s caretaker (acting as a parent or partner), or including the lessons from all of your partners in your relationships over time. It can also relate to any relationship where there is dysfunctional codependence. Creating order allows you to take the lessons from your life so you can use this information to create greater integrity in your own wellness and well-being.
By creating order in your family system you benefit by giving respect and dignity to the life of others and as well as freeing your own destiny. This is done out of love and regard for facing life to do something good with it. The ability to face life becomes possible in transforming your inner view of challenging relationships in life.
Include All Members of Your System
In some cases, a person might not be able to take information from the system due to lack of access or in some cases, a disorder of person in the line, or due to the exclusion of a person from the consciousness of your Family System. Exclusion could be any member of your family even from generations in the past. It could be a Great Uncle, a parent, a great grandmother, a soldier, a group of people, a partner, or even a sibling. It can also mean that through painful experience, you have been unable to process an event, or take the meaning to apply to your current life to create new possibilities, choices, or new direction.
To include everyone in your system means you have access to the information both conscious and unconscious through the generations. By doing so in the process of healing codependence in your own life, you are better able to end the violence cycles due to exclusion of members.
It’s important to look at the whole picture. This includes working with systemic information related to culture, language, beliefs, and the impact of perpetrators and victims. If individually or collectively we are not able to recognize the patterns from revenge or violence cycles, we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over. Transforming these patterns allows you to let go of the energy it takes to carry the burdens of this material. This allows updates in your attitudes, responses, and builds the hope, motivation, and momentum to experience tangible and sustainable positive change.
Clearing Pandora’s Box Creates Space for Hope
Recently, I’ve been going through belongings and boxes to organize and let go of things that need releasing. In one box was poetry from my high school and college years, I found a poem that I submitted to the school newspaper for publication. On the bottom of the page written in black and red ink were the votes from the editors with more “No’s than Yeses.” That single page has had a negative impact on my confidence every time I’ve looked at it in the past. I believed that my writing was not good enough. However, this year, for the first time, I noticed in pencil, 9.5 in the top right corner. This was the mark I had received from my English teacher for this poem with 10 as the highest score.
It was an “Aha” moment that changed everything. I had not been able to see it before. My psychic filter this time was able to take in a new possibility and resonate with a greater sense of hope.
The resulting optimism and feeling of gratitude reassured me that the way you see the world can change and is possible. What had changed from last year? My perspective to include the possibility of hope had shifted. By staying with my emotions when they came up and then spending more time with the awareness that came with them allowed me to get to the place of acknowledging that what my mind believed was true might not be the only way to look at the page. I asked myself if there was another way to look at it or something to learn from the page. This expanded my vision to take in new possibilities with confidence and optimism.
You can use this sentence frame for this experience. ” I used to believe________________. Now I am learning__________________________________. I forgive and release my past mistakes made in unconsciousness. I choose ________________ in this moment.”
Creating space within for hope includes acknowledging the parts of yourself that feel anxious, worried, discouraged, sad, or upset. You can ride these waves when you take the time to listen to the messages from your heart and Higher Self that include all of your life’s experiences. Then, you can take the lessons of growth, and align with what else might be possible. That’s when hope lights the way for expanding your vision so you can choose where you place your attention and take action.
With that, I share a poem I also found in the same box entitled, “Hope.“
Hope
Hope is love
Embracing us in our pain
Lifting the lid to the sun.
As Light pours in
We can embrace and be touched by light
Feeling its presence
Within our cell’s walls.
Hope knows its freedom
And penetrates
Even the smallest places
With love.
Hope is love whispering to us in the darkness,
Lifting the lid to the sun.
~Kimberly Rex © 2001
Kimberly Rex, MS is a Master Resonance Repatterning® and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach, and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist. She works with people all over the world by phone, Skype, and proxy during these times.
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