Self-Love: 5 Messages from Your Heart

Several years ago I purchased a bag of small metallic hearts for an Expressive Therapy workshop I was facilitating to use in collages and artwork.  The leftovers were then placed in a box. From time to time I open the box or the box spills open with cascading hearts from the original bag.  Over the years these hearts have shown up in lots of places: at work, outside, in my car, in the hallway, and sometimes even in my clothing!

  What is important here is that each one feels like a message. The message is always a reminder that LOVE can show up anywhere on your path. The opportunity is for taking the message of self-love no matter where you consider yourself to be in the process: beginning, middle or end of a relationship, project or situation. I’ve always found that these little red hearts show up when I least expect them, yet when I need them most. Simply finding one of them reminds me to move into my heart to be present to love’s message.
   The messages that come from these little reminders come in many variations, however, the ones that seem to rise to the top are the following Five Messages from Your Heart.

5 Messages from Your Heart

1) Wait, the Space Between

  You’ve probably heard the phrase, “When in doubt do nothing.” No-thing can transform when you create space for a new possibility. While this might seem challenging at first, it can be accomplished with a few relaxed, rhythmic breaths and focus on your heart’s own rhythm.  Think of a waltz, a dance with a strong beat followed by two lighter beats that create beautiful movement in place and then spirals through space with effortless ease. Right timing and partnering with your body-mind system’s wisdom for taking action by taking a pause or time for yourself each day to regroup, re-energize and replenish your energy through meditation or just 10 minutes for this centering creates wondrous opportunities for movement coupled with insight.

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.”~Eckhart Tolle

2) Encouragement for the Next Step

 Courage comes from the root word: cor or  “corazon” meaning heart. Taking action with your heart’s wisdom comes from activating the Barr System that allows the problem-solving brain with your heart to take part in orchestrating your next steps. This is especially helpful when you are under a great deal of stress or you feel anxiety about a meeting, communication or decision. By moving into a heart feeling of gratitude, joy, love, or appreciation, you start the process of synchronization throughout your body-mind system that creates relaxation, focus and potential for positive solutions.

“It’s this simple: If I never try anything, I never learn anything. If I never take a risk, I stay where I am.” ~Hugh Prather

3) Let Go and Let Good

 There are times where all of our energy is tied up in wanting a particular outcome. Waiting can be difficult. There are times where loss, grief, and depression keep us in place unable to move or expending all of our life in a habitual stress response focusing on a past hurt. In these times it is possible to allow the grief, loss, and pain to heal within your body-mind system by giving space and time to them. Using the Buddhist Meditation called “The Grief Point Meditation”  you can open the space for more balanced and harmonizing life energy flow in your system. To do so, make contact with your thumb in the middle of your chest or sternum area. Get in touch with your breath, and get in touch with hurt and pain that still resides within. Allow it to be there. Breathe with a soft, full belly.  This meditation allows the love in your heart to make space for pain, grief and frozen places in your life. By taking the time to give them space instead of armoring against them, you create the space for resolution and new space for new life energy to enter.

“Today I don’t want to live for, I want to live.” ~Hugh Prather

4) Appreciate Everything

 In the Ayurvedic System of India, your hands are the sub-chakras of the heart. Take time to appreciate your life through your hands. What do you do with them? What have you created with them? What experiences have you held and released with them? All of your life experiences have been experienced through life with your heart and hands. Touching and receiving compassion , and appreciation are ways to deepen this connection.  Take a moment to name a few things you appreciate about yourself with these simple questions: “What is good about you?” It is okay to make a long list.

“Consciously or unconsciously, everyone of us does render some service or another. If we cultivate the habit of doing this service deliberately, our desire for service will steadily grow stronger, and it will make not only for our own happiness but that of the world at large.” ~Gandhi

5) What Can I Learn From This? 

Your heart allows you to take unconditional love from the air and the Universe. You are energized by its pumping energy throughout your being. The love you share with another comes from this relationship first. Taking care of yourself on the journey no matter where you are is essential for there to be a quality of life with others. What kind of messages do you feed yourself? How can this inform you to make a positive change? The practice of journaling, movement or artwork could be incorporated into your daily time for self to observe and allow your heart to express in a way that informs every cell of your body with nurture for this purpose.
   When you listen to, take guidance, and then follow your heart, you indeed, glide through space and time in partnership with the Universe. Take the information you receive from your heart and do something good with your life!

Kimberly Rex, MS is an Advanced Resonance Repatterning® practitioner, Person-Centered Expressive Therapist, and Wellness and Well-being Life Coach. She works with people all over the world by Skype, phone, and proxy.

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