The journey towards positive and sustainable personal change includes your entire body-mind system. Your awareness, attitudes, beliefs, and sense of direction all make a difference in the process. The emotional and mental components of this journey are as important as your physical actions and decision-making process. Your dedication one-day at a time over a period of time changes how you meet challenges and new opportunities.
How to Meet the New Opportunity
In Resonance Repatterning® building coherent awareness is key to beginning the process of positive change. The following are some of the beginning elements of the process for personal change in any part of your life’s journey.
- Awareness is key and the first step in identifying where you are in your life, and what is coming up for you as an issue. This could be any area in your wellness and well-being: relationship, business, health, energy level, or the resulting effects of grief, loss, or trauma.
- Acceptance in this case is not giving up, it is seeing things as they are in the present for what and how they are realistically. In order to create new possibilities, it is important to resonate with the change being an opportunity and a point of choice. This means that there is a willingness to take part in a growth process that leads to transformation.
When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.~Lao Tzu
- Empowerment is that place where you become aligned with the motivation and determination to move through new possibility with the intent to discern what is aligned with your journey of growth and what is not aligned with positive change. Using this tool, you are able to feel the vital life energy to create positive change.
- Focus and Attention: Where you place your thoughts and how you respond to them is key in your journey. Through making time and space in your life, as well as resonating with coherent beliefs, attitudes, qualities, strengths and actions in your present, you begin to create a future with greater vital life energy one step at a time. By doing so, this allows you to shift direction through discernment when you need to do so, and take positive action with your awareness so that you can continue in the direction of your positive intentions.
How to Meet Challenges to Embark on the Journey of Change
- Fear of the unknown and losing control: Starting on a new path or creating a new habit can feel so unfamiliar that your sense of being in control can be significantly challenged. Antidote: Reminding yourself of times in your life where you have experienced a challenge and met that challenge in a way that felt successful can create an anchor image and feeling to get you started on the path to creating new possibilities. Resonating with with new possibilities and the opportunities you will experience with your plan of action is greatly supportive. Know that set-backs are stepping stones when they happen as teachers and guides to next steps.
- Not enough time to establish or integrate new changes: With the hustle and bustle of life you might feel as though there isn’t enough time in your schedule to begin first steps in the process of change. Antidote: Make time for small steps each day, delegating some of your daily chores, or making room for reflection or planning daily is essential in the process of making positive change. In as little as 10 minutes per day for any of these, you can tune into your process in a nourishing and creative way.
- Shifting Habits: Shifting a habit takes time. According to a research project mentioned in How Long Does it Take to Form a Habit? ( https://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/news-articles/0908/09080401), it can take 2-8 months to change and establish a new habit based on a number of factors related to your planning, pacing and support system in place. Antidote: Small daily changes lead to significant changes over the long term. An example is to create a daily routine by using a template to intitate, motivate and sustain your new positive actions as you move through the process.
- My goal (e.g. ‘to eat more fruit and vegetables’) _________________________________________________
- My plan (e.g. ‘after I have lunch at home I will have a piece of fruit’) (when and where) ______________________ I will _____________________________________. (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3505409/)
- Feeling uncomfortable: Creating new patterns also involves addressing underlying emotions, beliefs and attitudes about change. Fear and frustration that has been buried might come up for resolution. Allow them to inform you, and in the process learn to be kind and forgiving to your Self, while making space for forgiveness of others, as well. Antidote: Becoming aware of your underlying need for health and more energy can be met with alternative and healthy ways of choosing. Eating at a fast food restaurant does not meet these needs, however, the need for nurture, support and ease might be an underlying need that also needs to be heard. Find ways to create options to include short and long-term actions. For example, you might make a list of foods you can eat that are healthy for you that you can have at home, take to work, and also options for restaurants or menu items. You might choose a different environment altogether, or look at how to create stress-reducing activities to fill your need for nurture and calm. Journal, draw, move and express your feelings through natural and positive means.
- Letting Go of the Past: Making a transition in life from a relationship, job, or move can creates stress in itself. Know that your past has had an important impact on your life, and its teaching allows you to learn from its experience. Take that experience and apply it to your future. Don’t lose the lesson. Antidote: Finding support groups or supportive friends or resources that have encountered similar transitions can be especially beneficial as you move into new territory of your life.
- Confidence about skills: When starting on a new project, or creating a lifestyle change, it’s important to resonate with beginning where you are, as well as knowing where to look for resources, ideas and information to start your process in creating a new habit or positive change. Antidote: Take a class, research, find a mentor, talk with an advisor, read, and ask for directions. An example for healthy eating might be the book, Savor by Thich Nhat Hanh that speaks to the body-mind system in response to food and nurture.
- Impact on the rest of your life: Making change can mean in where you live, what you do, what you will no longer tolerate, or where and how you dedicate your time. Antidote: Resonating with the underlying need of loving self-care, healthy nourishment, health, loving relationships, calm and well-being are the over-arching motivation for creating a new life worthy of positive change. Creating new possibilities for your life is not short-term it is a life change!
- Changes in social circles and loyalty to patterns over time: Making change can mean shifting social interactions with specific people. It can also mean that you stop your hangouts and patterns that influenced or impacted your negative habit, addiction or limiting pattern. An example might be that you are trying stop overeating, however, your pattern has been to have lunch daily with co-workers at a fast food restaurant. Antidote: Join a support group or activity group that has a focus on part of your process (healthy eating, exercise, grief, creativity). By taking part in a group you will feel support and change feels much more possible. Choose to limit your interaction or number of times per week that you eat at the fast food restaurant, or choose a different menu item. You can also begin to choose different allies or activities during your meal time.
Resonance Repatterning® personal sessions with Kimberly Rex, MS allow you to transform problems into opportunities so that you resonate with new possibilities to create greater integrity in your wellness and well-being. There are sessions for every part of your journey of positive change that address each of the elements in this article tailored to your personal needs.
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