How Emotions Inform Your Life for Wellness and Well-being

Emotions inform your life for wellness and well-being. When your body-mind system perceives stress, it can respond with or without tension. This is based on the learning you received in early childhood related to attachment, safe expression of feelings such as anger, grief, joy or frustration.

You respond to life based on how you experienced what was happening to your parents or between your parents. An infant or small child pick up when their parent is stressed or unable to be emotionally present. When this happens, the small child learns how to repress basic needs to compensate for the need to attach through inhibiting or stopping the expression of emotions to not lose that bonding.

Abuse or neglect in families can show up as physical, emotional mental or even at the spirit level. If your parents were unable to give you the nourishment you needed to feel loved, or were unable to witness you and acknowledge your emotions to support your emotional development, this impacts how you create relationships and respond as you go through life.

Your survival and emotional brains continue to influence your behavior responses today. The template of your earlier experiences and family system rules about acceptable emotional response creates unconscious patterns for attempting to get your basic needs met in your relationships with others.

According to Dr. Gabor Mate, stressful childhood conditioning creates confusion about boundaries that can result in the inability to engage in healthy fight or flight responses. This repression of the ability to be assertive leads to a state of helplessness.

The imbalance and confusion within your body-mind system can lead to a belief that it is more important to meet the needs of others than take care of yourself based on your stressful early childhood relationships.

When your body-mind is imprinted with unconscious limiting beliefs, attitudes and thought patterns, this leads to relationships and body responses that represent unmet life or spirit level needs.

When your emotions are repressed, you are unable to work with them to inform you about what is happening within your body, or you lose your ability to discern situations and relationships that are depleting or toxic to your emotional well-being. It is then, also, that your immune system has more difficulty discerning what is self and what is not-self to create healthy boundaries.

Emotions are a vital part of your PNI (Psychoendoneuroimmunological) System which includes the connections between your emotional, nervous, immune and hormonal mechanisms. This means that the impact of stress on your emotions relates directly to your nervous system, hormonal and immune response affecting your health and sense of well-being. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychoneuroimmunology

What you experience emotionally influences your neurotransmitter, hormonal and immune system responses. Repressed emotions can have a negative impact on overreaction or depletion of healthy internal systemic responses. Over time this can lead to the destruction of internal resources to effectively deal with immunity, vital energy levels, and health.

Mental tensions, frustrations, insecurity, aimlessness are among the most damaging stressors, and psychosomatic studies have shown how often they cause migraine headaches, peptic ulcers, heart attacks, hypertension, mental disease, suicide, or hopeless unhappiness. ~Hans Selye

Disorder in your body-mind system results over time with an inability to discern true feelings, danger, or personal needs leading to exhaustion, depression, addiction, disease, and self-destructiveness.

Emotions inform your life and response to it. It is what you do with the information that emotions offer you that creates an opportunity for essential insight, expression and life-enhancing body-mind system response. Accessing your emotions through your body wisdom is a vital skill for creating greater integrity in your wellness and well-being.

According to psychologist Ross Buck, there are three levels of emotional response. This is how your body-mind system signals and reacts to what is happening to you and around you to resolve stress. By tuning in to what is happening inside, what you observe your body is doing, and what feelings you are experiencing, you can begin to build the foundation for conscious self-care.

1. Notice physiological changes in your body including your heart rate, breathing patterns and blood pressure. When your body experiences emotional stress, the muscles in your eyes contract, your stomach can become irritated and your muscles tighten for “fight or flight.” Notice where you feel the tension in your body, and where you feel numb. These signals can guide you to acknowledge your stress. It is an invitation to work with stressful situations or to explore healthy self-care.
2. Observe body language to feel and express emotions through gestures, facial expressions, mannerisms, and posture. Your body-mind system responds in this powerful way when interacting and bonding with others. The expression on a person’s face or the way your body is held can give you an enormous amount of sensed information. If you are not sensing what is happening in your own body, it becomes difficult to feel and read other people and life situations. Make time to tune in to how your body is letting you know how you are holding your self together, protecting, expressing or showing you where you stand.
3. Identify your subjective awareness. Tuning in to how you feel is key to creating a connection between your emotions and your body’s response. Do you feel angry, happy, sad, frustrated, hurt, tired, hungry, lonely, or scared? This allows you to draw upon what your body-mind system is telling you about your experience now. It creates the possibility to work with and respond to the need for authentic self-care. If you notice that you experience the same kind of emotional stress over and over, it is pointing to an unmet need or systemic root that deserves your time and awareness.

Resonance Repatterning® sessions get to the root of what you need to experience a positive and sustainable change in your life. Your body is a map of your life’s experiences. It is through working with this information that transformation through the connection to your family system’s patterns can be healed. By doing so, you gain awareness, a greater sense of ease, peace, and authorship for your life.

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