How Destiny Influences Your Life Purpose

Resonance Repatterning® sessions work with levels of your destiny with a number of healing disciplines that create balance and harmony in the physical, emotional, mental, and spirit levels of your life. At this time of year, in fall, it is especially a good time to look at inspiration and let go as it manifests in your life based on the Chinese Five Elements and Meridian System. One of the primary questions asked at this time of year is “What is your purpose in life or in the world?” followed by “What do you need to let go of to experience your life purpose? Family Systems is also particularly suited for working with reclaiming and restoring love with a sense of harmonizing order that influences your own destiny and life purpose in the world.

What is Destiny?

From the perspective of Family Systems work developed by Bert Hellinger, your destiny is something that is personal. It is part of who you are as related to your parents, culture, language, and all of the groups with whom you coincide. According to this, you can only be as strong and experience the vital essence and power in your life if you agree with this. This means that you are aligned with the fact that you have the biological patterns of your parents and ancestors. You were brought up in a particular way with specific thoughts, beliefs, and patterns that came directly from your family of origin.

It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves. ~ William Shakespeare
Taking Information about Destiny from Your Family System

In Family Systems work the purpose of this insight is to build awareness of the order in which you arrived into your own family system. It is important that you resonate with the fact that your parents are the “big ones” and you are the “little one,” not the other way around. In some families, the difficulties and challenges of trauma, stress, and disorder create disharmony creates non-coherent loyalties and disorders.

As an example, a child might take on the emotions that were repressed or not dealt with by the parent, and assume responsibility for their parent’s actions or relationship with their partner. In this case, a child might take on the burden of the parent by living out that emotion in their own life, limiting their ability to experience their full range of emotions, or living out the life-depleting or limiting pattern in their own relationship, business, and community in their adult life.

Sessions work with Earlier Experiences that identify and shed light on the initial and original patterns that became imprinted. The effects of earlier experiences, trauma and unresolved emotions get translated into how you carry yourself through the world in the present. This is communicated in your posture, your breathing patterns, your eating habits, self-care and regulation, your health, and your ability to connect to your sense of well-being and place in the world.

Learning from the Destiny of Others

Taking your parents is more about becoming aware of these earlier patterns while developing a new way to show love and loyalty to your family of origin. This happens by becoming aware that each person has their own fate with all of its cultural, biological, belief systems, health issues, and choices. In sessions, I often refer to this process as opening a treasure box. Within this box are jewels, roses, as well as tacks and thorns. With the acceptance of this as a reality, there can be a willingness to work with all of the material as it is so that freedom and personal choice can emerge in a new way!

We can not change another person’s destiny. However, we can give back a person’s ability to respond to life based on that person’s own choices. This creates respect and dignity while freeing other people in your Family System including yourself to do the same thing in each particular life.

Taking the Gift or Higher Lesson

The past has lessons that include gifts and higher teachings that allow you to develop your capacity to heal and serve. Many times in sessions we work with the question, “What is the higher lesson or gift from this issue?” As each person answers this question for themselves, it becomes clear that purpose in their own lives and in the world are integrally connected with their ancestral and family system’s content.

It is here that the potential for sharing this lesson can influence your life purpose so you can expand into the world. The circle of your family’s beliefs and constrictions from the past become tools for permission to then expand your circle, to explore life from the place of authorship within. This process becomes one of both inspiration and letting go. Knowing that you are connected to your ancestors, you can learn from them, and expand on that learning.

This knowledge is sacred, and it is what both challenges and sustains you. At the same time, it is the capacity to explore the world with new eyes and ways of being that allow you to move out into the world with your inner gifts. Doing so is based on working with what you have learned over time, all your own trials, tribulations, triumphs, and lessons. By doing so, you give voice and wisdom from your destiny in your expression of your life purpose in the world!

Kimberly Rex, MS is a Certified Master Life Coach, Resonance Repatterning® Practitioner, and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist who works with you to achieve your life goals and positive intentions by phone, Skype, in-person, or proxy. Find out more about Resonance Repatterning and Repattern Your Life Coaching packages in her FREE monthly newsletter with exclusive articles on consciousness science, monthly healing modalities, and session offerings here.